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writes:Do people who are in love with each other have anything in common. Some people have told me that opposites attract but I have seen that it is not the true in some cases. The same could be refered to couples who have a lot in common. Can someone please help me and tell me if you have to have things in common with your partner or not. As I get more and more confused about it every time I ask. It also means it won't look bright for me in the future if I don't know what I am looking for in a girlfriend. Reply to this Question
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reader, just-ask-xx +, writes (28 October 2007):
 Well, as I've said, when you're in love you just...know. You want to be with that person all the time and you get butterflies when you see them, it just feels different from other relationships. As for knowing if she loves you there's no way of knowing, only she knows that. A lot of people say that they love other people hen they don't because that's just what you say...apparently :\ I love my bf and he tells me he loves me, and I believe him because I love him :)
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reader, sonic89  +, writes (7 October 2007):
 so let me get his straight - you want to know if teh person is the one and will love you in th end - believe me if i really knew this i wouldnt have googled this site - i wish i knew - do you actually think everyone wants to get hurt by people that dont love them back - its all about falling form the horse and getting back on it - some people just fall more than others - I am one of those people :D ! but just hang in there - trust me it always feels like that girl is the only one that will ever walki into your life - BUT ITS NOT TRUE !
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut how will I know it's right or that the person I'm with shares the same feelings as I do. I don't want to end up being with someone that doesn't love me (which will probably happen to me in the end) and I am in love with them
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (6 October 2007):
 Hey
Me and my partner are very very simillar people. The same sence of humor, the same ideas, the same interests,like the same music, same things, same food, same drinks, we both have European blood (but he was born here in US), our families are very very similar ... but at the end we are two totaly different people!
There are things we love on each other, and that we hate on each other.
I don't think it really matters if you are the same or you are total opposites ... its always about the actuall person !!!!!!!! For some people works this, for some works something else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2007): i was with my partner for 16 years and we had things in common but there were more differences. in the end it was the differences that split us up- and caused a lot of arguments along the way. one huge difference was her being from Europe- all over the place- and me being from USA. there was a constant battle of her wanting to live in Europe and me wanting to live in Florida. she was also very, VERY highy educated and i'm not. we both wanted to travel and have lots of kids though and we liked the same music and both loved motorbikes. she had a really bad temper while i'm quiet a calm person.
i think for a relationship to work really well there has to be a balance of things that you have in common with your partner but also things that make you different from each other
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reader, flower girl +, writes (6 October 2007):
 I have met people that when i have spoken to them we could be peas in a pod, but there is absolutly nothing there romantically, me and my husband have some things in common but we are own people and we just gel and that is all it boils down to at the end of the day.
Take care.xx.
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reader, just-ask-xx +, writes (6 October 2007):
Lets see, me and my partner have been together since I was 14 (I'm now 19) and we have things that bug eachother and things that we love in eachother. But everyone is different, you might like a sense of humour, someone that gets you, (that is one of the main things between me and Ross), someone who knows when you are upset or angry, smeone sensitive, there are a milion personalities out there, since Ross is my only love so far, I don't realy know. Just ask yourself, what would you want to come home to? What would you be attracted to? Everyone is different and don't worry if you don't know you're in love with someone straight away, some people know and some don't. So don't worry. Be happy :) I'm sorry if you haven't understood a word I've said :) or it isn't useful but I've wrote it now so...I'm sending it!!! lol :) reply if you want to or i this has came useful to you, or it hasn't :) thanks, love just-ask-xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2007): I would think it depends on the person. Not every couple have things in common. In my previous relationship we were complete opposites but we were given an opportunity to express more. Like she would make an effort to try the things I liked and I would do the same for her, it make things rather sweet but it does depend on who you are with.
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reader, sonic89 +, writes (6 October 2007):
well, I will tell you that i tried to follow the girl who i though had similar interests with me but it never worked out - opposites dont always attract - however sometimes there is a chemistry different from having things in common and you soon realise that just being with the person made you happy and appreciate each of the things that each partner has - i never used to like trance music but now since her it has become a part of me (small example)
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