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writes:Im 29 and my girlfriend is 25. I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years. Just before Christmas we had been going through a rough patch and arguing over stupid stuff and calling each other names. She said she wanted some space so I moved out and back in with my folks. We agreed the problems came from working together and living together so she has quit work to get another job. We just went on holliday together with another couple to see how things went and I thought it had gone great. We had sex when we got back but two days later she has told me she doesnt love me enough to keep on trying to make it work. She says she is sorry and wishes she felt the same way as me but she wants to be alone and doesnt want a relationship right now.Everybody was shocked and everyone keeps saying give her time and shel come round, but I dont know what to think. I didnt really expect us to break up. I dont know what to think. Any friendly advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): cheers for taking the time to respond. I feel silly talking about stuff on the net, im supposed to be this strong rugby playing bloke and my mates see me that way but inside im just gutted. its really nice to know there are people out there who care enough to offer some advice. faith in humanity slightly restored. thanks.
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reader, TheFlash07  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 I went through the same thing, more or less, my gf told me she didn't love me anymore, but after a year we got back together. What everyone here is saying is true, give it time.If she ever truly loved you, after a while she'll start to miss you. Stay strong ;)
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reader, Shelley Harris +, writes (12 February 2011):
 Hi,
As we go through life, we change our beliefs values and perceptions, we change our views. Things which we believe one year can change by the next year. I think your girlfriend has a different view of what she wants from life. You are still both young enough to find love. Although hard she has decided that what she had is not what she wants now. She may come back I can't answer that but you need to be prepared to move on.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 I guess everyone is right, I think you just need to give her some time. Sometimes people can just fall out of love and it is really sad but we just have to accept these things. She needs some space so for now dont contact her and try and come to terms with the fact that things are over. Concentrate on your own life for now and give yourself some time to grieve for the end of the relationship and surround yourself with family and friends. You will begin to feel better after a while. It just takes time and acceptance. Good luck
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reader, demonblades  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 sometimes but it takes a matter of time
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reader, Esme7655 +, writes (12 February 2011):
Yes they do. Sometimes it hurts like hell, and sometimes it's a sigh of relief. Give her space, keep yourself busy, meet other people, live your life! You didn't do anything wrong, she's just not ready for a relationship. This is her problem, you have every right to be hurt, because you love her and she's confused and you probably want to fix whatever is making her question the relationship. I'm sorry, she feels that way, But honestly, you'll be fine. You deserve to be happy, and fulfilled in love. Love yourself for now! Be good to you :):) take care, xox
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reader, ssaarraahh +, writes (12 February 2011):
 you should let her be alone for sometime,maybe she's too nervous.
if she doesnt come back for a long while,leave her.there are many girls that you may find better.
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