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writes: I've recently come out of a long term relationship and almost straight away started dating someone new. Its all happened quite fast and we are pretty 'infatuated' with each other, i.e sex is amazing and we really enjoy being together... and tell each other this very often. However, I am quite outgoing, talkative and extrovert whereas this guy is quite quiet, introvert and has quite a sensitive gentle nature about him (which I do like) but I am worried that because we don't have the non-stop intense conversation, laughing and joking etc (which I had with my previous partner) that we are not as compatible? Also he's quite 'cultured' and intellectual, into politics etc, and i'm...well... less so, lol. So my question is, is anyone in a relationship with someone who is the 'opposite' to them, and how does it work? I guess I am worried we will run out of things to talk about or something... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): me and my guy are totally opposite im loud,out going as where he`s quiet and observes he can calm a situation and i love that about him as im very hotheaded,yet because we argue he thinks we are not compatiable and shouldnt be together,compatibility dont work opposits do as we like alot of the same things but we also dislikes wot the other likes
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (16 June 2008):
 I watched a show where women were either attracted or repulsed by a man's natural odor. They were actually up under the man's armpit, sniffing. The most amazing thing about the program was that all the women were attracted to a man, by scent, with the genetic makeup or DNA that was the MOST different from their own! The program stated that this was natures way of improving the species.
Perhaps being drawn to someone that is different in personality would make us a bit more diverse and broad-minded as well? As long as you enjoy each other's company - Vivre La Difference!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): If you're like my other half, you'll never run out of things to talk about. If talking was an olympic sport, England would have a gold medal every 4 years for it.
She's totally different to me, complete opposite in most ways, yet we connect with each other both mentally and physically. She's good at what she does, and I like to think I'm good at what I do. We complement each other. We'd make an ideal couple on 'millionaire' because we know a lot about different things. If we were intellectual equals in the same subjects life would be very boring indeed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): Opposites attract better that someone who you are compatible with, because when you are compatible with someone, then lets say you want to do somthing and only one person can do it, and you want to do it your way, so the one you are compatible to will also want to do it, But only one can, the whole point is that, almost everything you do with him, you two will end up fighting, with an opposite, he will be different, you will have a better time, and you will learn many interesting things about them, like culture, what they like to do, and more, so good luck.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (16 June 2008):
 Being the same doesnt always work, if you are both extrovert, loud etc it can lead to competition. So by being opposites you can often complement each other. I can be quite shy until I get to know people, I avoid crowds and busy places. My husband is so totally the opposite, he sings in a band, is really really outgoing and is often the life and soul of the party. He has done wonders for my self esteem and confidence and whilst I probably wouldnt ever be as extrovert as he is we do complement each other and I can now hold my head high in a room full of people, give as good as I get and really enjoy myself, even more so if he is there by my side.
So give it a chance it may work x
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