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writes:Do nice people finish last?Lately it feels like i have had it with being nice and innocent and being open hearted if feels like the nicer and honest you are with people, the more screwed over you get. in relationships, work/ friendships. etc. hAS ANYONE FELT THIS WAY?Example 1: I just graduated with my masters, yet my regular work experience will not get me a job, but if I lie and "fluff" my resume I somewhat will "get" an interview. Example 2: In a relationship for five years, I gave 130 % and the moment I was a btch he came back, yet while i was nice and vunrable i got taken fro granted.Example 3: I get my friend a job in sales, she lies about her sales and me the honest one gets fired..HOW is it that being nice will get you anywhere in society? It sees the most successfull ppl are liars cheats and animals out to get you. Does anyone have an opinion of this? It feels like my innosence has been shattered and I know view the world and the ppl in as a deck of cards. I certainly have to learn how to play to my ADVANTAGE. but i mean is this it?i S THIS HOW YOU HAVE TO BE?? I've noticed even at work, the nicer you are the more they take you for granted.
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reader, alexia846 +, writes (26 March 2011):
alexia846 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThen y not act like a liar/cheat/steal etc??
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): No, no, no, don't be silly. Nice people actually fisnish first, but it usually takes a long time to reach that point in your life. Thos who are not "nice" may advance faster than you momentarily, but their poor personal traits will eventually catch up with them, setting them back to square one. Being nice is being patient, believing that being nice will pay off. Like any investment, it takes time, but for those stay nice, that investments usually yields fruitful returns.
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reader, Molly0102  +, writes (26 March 2011):
I know that feeling. Most of my friends tell me I'm too nice and I always get taken advantage of be it in hw or in other situations.
Sometimes I feel vexed about it because the hypocrites and mean people in my school seem to get everything but people like us are simply taken advantage of. I think society functions this way nowadays because everyone else thinks it's the norm so everyone feels the need to act like a backstabbing liar/cheater/hypocrite. I think a better way to approach the situation is to adopt a more cautious attitude so people won't try to take advantage with you. That's what I'm doing noe lol. Good luck :) You can always drop me a message I'll lend you a listening ear :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): Yes,I know what you mean. I felt like that many times. For example, my dad is the type of man who, if he found a bag full of cash, would take it to the police, he is way to honest for this planet, so he got screwed over time and time again, so I live in poverty. My best friend, on the other hand, is rich, because her mom was a CEO of a company and she stole money from the company, and never got punished for it. So, my friend is living a life a thousand times better than mine, even though she is no better or more deserving than me in any way. The thing is, there is no justice in this world, and I always wonder how people can take it. I know how hard it is for me to deal with injustice.
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