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writes:I am a woman in her fifties. Do men really want LOVE these days or just pure sex. It seems to be love has flown out of the window. Obviously sex is part of any relationship but it seems the men of today ONLY want sex. Is this true? it would be nice to hear some mens opinions on this also. Where does one go to find a man who wants a genuine comittment now?Trudy Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): Well, I am a 51 year old man, and love is what I want. I am in a relationship right now, but I can tell you if I was single again, I would be more than able to tell a lady friend that I was looking for a relationship, not sex.
Call me old fashioned I guess...I have some male friends the same age who just want the sex, but I can tell you that truly they are pretty unhappy with themselves. They put on a brave front...and you know yourself that you don't really want that type.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): Both. Men do want love, however probably only if it comes with sex. I think it is very hard for some men to stay in love if there is no sex.
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reader, Swanson  +, writes (30 June 2008):
honestly, I think that everybody still ideally wants love, it's just that more and more people are becoming able to separate their sexuality from love and realize that the two things are not necessarily related.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (30 June 2008):
 I used to think that when I was single for a while between husbands! I used to only meet guys who wanted sex or if they wanted more i didnt want it with them.
When I met my second husband and he made it clear from day one he wanted a real relationship I kept pinching myself thinking why does he want to be with me, does he really love me and want to spend the rest of his life with me. I felt honoured that he loved me as much as I loved him and still find it amazing even after 5 years.
So in answer to your question all men are different but you will meet some who want to settle down. Try going to new places, coffee houses, nice restaurants, not known singles haunts, art galleries, start an evening course etc etc. I know a lot of people who have found like minded people on the internet who are fed up trying to find like minded people, there are a lot of people looking for love and commitment on these sites, but of course always be careful.
You will find the right one some day, dont go looking for him everywhere but dont give up hope either x
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reader, Wulfgrimm +, writes (30 June 2008):
I want a real relationship, yeah sex is great but really doesnt proove anything. A real relationship is a battle worth braging about. It takes far more energy and heart ache to make a relationship work then just to go and sleep with somebody.
I know because yes, I have done the whole one night stand. And I will tell you right now, I would so much rather be with somebody who actually cares about me and vice versa then just to get a little something something.
Funny thing is, I keep running into the girls that don't want a real relationship, they just want to have fun. I know that guys are seen as steriotypicaly all for the sex and not the love. But it works that way with women as well. Thier are actually quite a few guys who want a real relationship... but then again they are the ones that usually get over looked...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): it's depend some of the man they love the women becouse of having sex
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