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writes:I have heard this saying that "men think in black and white". How true is this?I have past relationships and I know for a fact that once a guy has lost interest in you, there is nothing that can make him lift a finger for you. This makes sense to me. But now I am a bit confused with my ex whom I have broken up for half a year already. He dumped me and told me that he has lost his feelings for me. So I let him go no matter how it hurt me.Yet why is he still contacting me? Well, he was quiet a month after the break-up. But though not on a daily basis, 2 weeks won't pass by without him sending me random messages. Sometimes he is emotional when he sends me messages and I am just puzzled. This has been going on for months now.Are there men like this? Why bother to still send an ex some messages if the feeling is gone and there's no sex involved? I don't know now what he is trying to do...it was his decision to leave me.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (17 October 2009):
 No one thinks in absolutes unless they have once-and-for-all decided an issue.
Your ex is having a great deal of 2nd thoughts and emotional pangs as he misses you.
If you took the time to talk to him, it seems like he's in an emotional desert and likely regrets breaking up with you.
Unless you have deep feelings for him at this stage, and want him back, he's inflicting unnecessary pain on you.
But, the fact that you're still curious about this, tells me you're not over him either.
Maybe a moment of time to re-evaluate this. Life's too short and if he still means anything to you, maybe you should reconnect and see where you two really are in life.
Its never too late if you share a great deal of love between you. Maybe there's a way to rebuild this and make it stronger and more satisfying for both of you? Its a thought, but again it all depends on your feelings.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 October 2009):
I agree with the post below. Men don't always see in black and white. But they do know how to string someone along if they know they can. He's not worthy of you. Cease all contact, dont reply and find someone who is worthy.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (17 October 2009):
Maybe he's fishing for an easy hook-up... or he's insecure and fishing for releif (and an easy hook-up), or maybe he's drunk, sad and lonely (and fishing for an esay hook-up)...Ex's that send ex's emails like this are usually wanting to relive the past at their convieance... If he was interested in a relationship he's say so... what he's saying is something diffferent.
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