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writes: Ok, this question is more for the guys I guess. Is a woman with thinning hair/bald completely unattractive and undesirable? I have always had thin hair, it's genetic, both parents have thin hair, with some thinning, and my grandpa was bald, my sister also has thin hair, so yes, it IS genetic, no underlying medical cause. But despite my young age, my hair seems to be thinning. When my hair is dry it looks normal, although thin, but normal. But when it's wet, it's really depressing, since a lot of scalp shows through.This is really embarrassing, especially as a young woman. My boyfriend seems ok with it, though if I keep losing hair I don't know how he'll take it. He tries to be as supportive as possible, and he always says he likes my hair 'cause it's soft and less of hassle (since he has really thick hair... but I think he's just saying that so that I don't feel bad).I mean, as a woman, I have no problem finding bald men attractive, but at the same time, if I were a guy, I'd have a really hard time finding a bald woman attractive. So if my hair gets progressively thinner, I will understand if no man finds me attractive (even my boyfriend), but of course it will be very deppressing since it's not something I really have control over.I went to the dermatologist the other day and he wasn't too helpful. He told me I have really thin hair, that I have a lot of dandruff, gave me some dandruff shampoo and told me I should try Minoxidil, but that was it. I don't really want to wear a wig. I just feel so betrayed by nature, if it makes sense. Especially because women with thick hair love to comment on how thin my hair is. Some women can be such bitches sometimes...But I digress... is it too undesirable to have a woman with thin hair? Like I said, my hair is still on the "normal looking" side, but if it gets worse, and I had no option but to wear a wig, would that also be a turn off? I mean, I'm only 23 :(I don't know how to cope with this, I'm usually told I'm attractive, but women's hair isn't called 2the crowning glory" for no reason, I feel that if I lose this "glory" no matter how good a person or how attractive I am otherwise, I will always be undesirable and it's so scary :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2012): We all feel 'betrayed by nature' in some way, funny how we focus on what we feel are our bad points isn't it?
My friend is bald after Chemo, she was distraught at first, but now wears a wig or scarves/hats turbans, she goes with the flow. Yes it will grow back eventually but we dont know how thick or thin and she doesn't care.
Get a good layered cut, buy shampoos that enhance thin hair there are some excellent ones, have highlights that give texture. You have a man and he loves you as you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2012): Any man worth his salt is going to think of you as a person, and the personality and other behaviors you have will rule the day once they get to know you.
The initial attraction issue is perhaps affected by many people, but it isn't going to be your hair alone that attracts men overall.
I once knew a young woman who was bald, completely, and not a hair on her body (genetic), and she was absolutely gorgeous and exotic and wore a scarf on her scalp and believe me I never even noticed her hair, or lack thereof.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2012): stop doing this to yourself.
I have very severe eczema (30% of my body is blisters rashes pus or scabs ...or if im lucky, scars, not to mention im always deathly itchy.)
I don't put myself down about it. No I wont ever look like a porn star. But geez... love is about so much more than physical conditions that are OUTSIDE OF YOUR CONTROL
that being said... do all that you CAN do to make yourself look your best. not someone elses best. We all have our challenges. If your partner says hes ok with it... he is.. thats why hes there. Besides, if he wasnt ok with it... what kind of person would that make HIM? Love yourself 3 its the only person you will ever be.
~K
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 February 2012):
 Because I have had gastric bypass and one of the side effects is thinning hair I can tell you I know many women with very very VERY thin hair...
some even wear wigs or have pieces made.
The minoxidil can help... you should try it but be careful I think there are issues about pregnancy with it...
If your boyfriend says he is ok with it believe him... VERY thick hair is a pain to take care of...
do you see a stylist so that it's styled to best use what you have??
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reader, YouWish +, writes (10 February 2012):
 There are so many solutions to thinning hair for a woman. I have a good friend who owns a multi-million dollar hair restoration center, and he says that many of his clients are women. There are remedies which include medication, surgery, hybrid grafting, wigs, and other treatments that people would never tell you had. Treatment can go so much farther than merely a "wig".
You are not undesirable. It's easy for all of us to focus on physical attributes we're so ready to write off as a "turnoff". Just know that even if your worst fears ever come true (they seldom do, by the way!), your options are nearly endless when it comes to hair!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2012): i can honestly say that i love girls with afros or thick hair...... but one of my exes had very thin hair and we broke up because she cheated so obviously i wasnt the only guy that wanted her...... thin hair, thick hair it really doesnt matter and to those it bothers they can fck off
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reader, person12345 +, writes (10 February 2012):
 I wouldn't necessarily come right out on the first date and say you're wearing a wig, but they make some very very high quality ones nowadays.
One of my friends has incredibly thin hair, but she's still gorgeous. If it only looks thin when it's wet, no one will notice anyways.
Have you tried rogaine?
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reader, doublejack +, writes (10 February 2012):
My girlfriend is only 25 and she has really thin hair, too. I think she's always had thin hair which is part of the problem. She also lost a lot of hair because of stress. She went through a divorce and is a single mom with 2 little ones, and her ex-husband is a deadbeat dad who is very far behind in child support. She doesn't make a lot of money and has struggled to make ends meet, not to mention all of the emotional trauma going through a divorce entails. The other issue is that she has a little natural curl to her hair, so she straightens it every couple of days. That's hard on her hair, of course, so every time she does it she loses some more.
When she takes a shower or goes for a dip in the hot tub, I can definitely see a lot of scalp. She doesn't have any bald spots, just very thin hair. Honestly, it doesn't make me think any less of her. She is a very attractive woman, and being a guy I'm more focused on other areas of her body - her bust, ass, legs, eyes, face, etc. I'll notice how she styles her hair but the fact that it's thin is not anything I really notice too much or get bothered by. That said if she were to shave it off, that would probably change how I viewed her.
Just try to be confident that you are an attractive woman, and focus on the parts of your body that you like the most. If it's your figure, wear things that accentuate it. Or if it's your bust, wear something that is a little revealing yet tasteful. That will draw guys attention, and likely lead to a lot of compliments!
Best of luck!
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