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writes:Do men ever leave a relationship for reasons other than having met someone else? My boyfriend left me without giving me a reason, and my mind is going crazy. We weren't fighting or anything like that, as a matter of fact I thought we got along well. The relationship was 1.5 years. I can think of lots of scenarios as to why he left and hate that he couldn't or wouldn't just tell me what was going on. It seems like most of the time guys leave because they've met another woman, so I'm really curious what some of you think, especially men but all answers are welcome. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): I guess he must have a low opinion of himself and thinks he`s worthless has me and an ex had so much in common,the sex was great we was so compatiable yet he said we wasnt because we argued,in the year before he ended it he started to get down as he felt girls were no longer attracted to him and wanted a nice car so they would look at him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): This happened to me once and the guy came back to me months later and said it was because I might buy him an expensive birthday present for his upcoming big birthday! So there's one other reason...!
Doesn't help you though. It's a pity he couldn't give a reason as it leaves you mid-air, but maybe he didn't want you to have a chance to argue back.
You could try texting or emailing to see if he finds it easier to tell you that way. Or you could just try and move on, upsetting though it is. If he wasn't right for you, and you had lots of things wrong between you anyway, there must be someone better for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): there are just no pleasing some guys no matter how you treat them and i have just found that out after loosing my soulmate,makes me wish i had treated him like shit now instead of like royalty
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): There are definitely other reasons for him leaving you. Here's a simple way of getting your feelings out...1)find yourself a clear space somewhere in your house/accomadation where no-one will disturb you.2)turn all phone off/put them on answering machine so nothing can disturb you3)relax and clear your head (if it helps read a book or sit crossed leged,close your eyes and brath slowly until head is clear)4)(beforhand)get a peice of paper and a new pen (not used)5)write his name at the top of the paper and write 5-10 bulletpoints down the side6)write down all the things you hated about him or you found annoying (try and fill your bullet points [thats why thier there])hope i could helpbye!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): Some men can leave for reasons other than another woman but they are few and far between.My guess is that he has caught scent of another woman that has shown an interest.He could be an acception to the rule they do exist.The bottom line is that he doesn't want to be with you. So stop second guessing the reasons, your imagination can ruin your self esteem.'You were incompatible'... period.Good luck
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (21 December 2008):
 Sometimes men do leave relationships even if they haven't found someone else. I can tell you I have. Nagging, asking for too much, wanting to control the man, trying to set stages so the man will be manipulated into doing what she wants, those are very good reasons why someone would leave a woman even if he doesn't have another.
On the other hand, you don't seem that kind of a woman. That does not mean, however, that he left because he had someone else.
We know that many people find a new love long before they leave their old one, the person they don't love anymore. Quite often, the decision to leave is already there when men or women start seeing someone else. I guess that finding someone else because you're unhappy even though you haven't actually thought of leaving is even more frequent, and it happens because, as Neil Sedaka sang, "Breaking up is hard to do".
If he broke up with you, forget about him. There are many fish out there in the sea.
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