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writes:So I dated guy #1 for a few months and I really fell for him. We loved each other very much, and we had an amazing time together, but as time passed by, he became very absorbent and overbearing. He was very jealous, wouldn't let me see my friends, stayed at my flat almost everyday so I decided to end the relationship. Shortly after the breakup, I met another guy who I fancied. Guy #2 liked me back and we starting hanging out more often (no dates, we always went out with mutual friends). Then guy #1 came to see me one day to see if we could get back together. Even though I still had feelings for him, I told him no because of how bad our relationship turned out to be. A couple weeks later, I found out he was dating someone new and I was enraged with jealousy. I asked him and he said he was just coping with my rejection and that it meant nothing as he was still in love with me. Later that week I found out that he had a one night stand just a day or 2 after the break up and I was crushed although things with guy #2 were going really well.Now I have to make a decision. I love guy #1 and I always find myself reminiscing of the past. And even though he dated and slept with someone else, in a sick way I think it's my fault for pushing him away. Guy #2 is very sweet and very nice and likes me a lot, but I can't help but feel that something is missing. We had sex for the first time just recently and I felt like I was cheating on guy #1 although we've been broken up for almost 2 months.Any words of wisdom???
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (12 July 2009):
 You have to decide for yourself whether you want love or drama. Remember that it didn't work with Guy #1 and you found yourself miserable because of his controlling ways. It's not that you love him, it's that he's feeding your ego and you enjoy the thrill you get from knowing he's still in love with you. He didn't change in 2 months. He just looks better with distance.
If you don't feel the spark with Guy #2 - and this is probably a rebound relationship anyway - then leave him alone. Don't use him to make yourself feel better. In fact, I suggest that you take some time to work on yourself and figure out what you really want out of a relationship.
Good luck.
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