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writes:I am a successful 39 year old married Business woman that developed a strong friendship with one of my single male contractors. When I was going through a rough patch in my marriage he was there for me and we would talk a lot about our feelings in general. I have felt that he likes me more than a friend but has never really verbalised it - always spoken in roundabout ways. He may also have felt that he is not good enough for me as he is not college educated but I feel that he is highly intelligent and have told him so. Recently I have felt that there is no point to him thinking about me in any other light but as a friend even though I continue to have doubts about my marriage. I offered to set him up on a date to bring closure to any feelings he may have. At first he was reluctant and said that the girl was too young for him but when I pressed the issue he agreed. I feel as if I have let him down and maybe I too have feelings for him and feel odd. Your thoughts Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): Well as the married woman you are, I feel you should just be happy for him if you are gonna set him up on a date. I don't know how you could have let him down like this, unless you were sure he rly had feelings for you. But you are married, and you both should respect that. Being friends or close friends isn't such a bad thing...in some ways you can consider yourselves lucky.
Just be a friend like you thought, and be happy for him. And work on your marriage, whether its to divorce or be with your husband, but the reasons should not be coz of a crush with another.
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