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writes:We have know one another for 8 years and been on and off.He has wanted a relationship from me for the past 3-4 years and i have always said no.Our friendship has always been more of a freindship.He has started seeing someone, the day he told me i realised i am in love with him always have been and want to be with him.I told him this, he said he loves me too, and that he is really confused, we met up when he was leaving we kissed and hugged, he said it was really nice.I left him be a week later he text to say hi, that he was thinking of me and we text for a while.I have not heard anything back what should I do, do I wait or do i just close the chapter?help as i am going out of my tree, this has all been over a period of 3 weeks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): hmmm.. suddenly he becomes attractive once he gets a girlfriend. I can understand why he is so confused now you are showing interest.
Believe me anyone he knows will be telling him that the only reason you are now interested in him is because he now has a girlfriend.
You need to ask yourself that same question? Is it jealously over losing a good friend to another women? Or are the feelings of love geniune.
If your motives are selfish you will only hurt him deeply and lose a close friendship. Do you really want that?
Isnt it better to be there for each other as friends?
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (1 October 2007):
All you can do is be there if he decides to try you again. From his standpoint you are a bad risk.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (1 October 2007):
 Apparently now he is wondering whether he should stay with this new girl, or he should continue to try his chances with you.
And, you're wondering whether you should still try with him, or let him go.
This isn't a real change from the situation in the last eight years. It seems that neither of you really wants the relationship. Otherwise, you would already have one.
I would close the chapter. Maybe it feels nice to be together, but, it's not what either of you really wants.
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