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writes:help, i have been in a relationship with my cousin for over a year (in secret) i love him dearly and want him as a life partner, it has come to a point where we need to say something to our family and friends or we have to go our own ways, but im scared, any advise? Do i tell?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): I am replying to the gentleman in the relationship with his cousin for 1 1/2 years. I applaud you!! I am very encouraged by your answer. You are obviously very mature and have arrived at a place emotionally that we could only hope to be someday...In saying that I must tell you, I am also in your same situation. Thank you for sharing your answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): I have been in a serious relationship with my first cousin for about 1 1/2 years. I have never experienced anything so magical. At the risk of sounding cliche, there was this instant connection and the realization that I had loved her all my life - and that without knowing it, I had been searching for her all my life. And to suddenly come together face to face and to be looking into her eyes while knowing she felt the same way was joyous. I love her with all my heart and soul. I always will. She is the one that I have always needed. Is it crazy? Perhaps to an outsider. But when I close my eyes and feel the joy within me, I know that it is right. Tell whomever you need. Some will understand, others won't but most simply won't care. If they love you, it is your happiness that will matter the most.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): PM me - I'll tell you a story!
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): thankyou for your reply, you hear so much these days how it isnt socially excepted to be with your 1st cousin. its funny i almost need someone to say im not sick and that its ok. you cant help who you fall in love with. in my previous relationships i seem to always compared them to my cousin as i love his personality, outlook on life, charm, looks etc. this is obviously why my other relationship didnt last. we are happy together and surely thats all that matters. thanks again for your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): Well, you're certainly old enough to know your own mind, and I'm assuming he is too, and if you've been with him for a year I guess any cracks would have shown up by now, just as in any other normal relationship.
There's nothing to be scared about, and for what it's worth, my advice would be to tell whoever you felt needed to know. There's no legal or moral bar to your relationship, so go ahead and enjoy it and if other people have hang-ups about it that's their problem, not yours.
Mail me privately if you wish I might be able to give you a bit more insight into this situation.
All the best
Phil
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