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writes:I've had an on-off boyfriend for a few years now and we are really close. The thing is although I love him, I don't feel 'inlove' with him. I actually feel as though I'm addicted to going back to him out of habit rather than love and passion.He's a great friend and a great lover but for me I just don't see a steady future. How do I treat this? Do I treat the split as I would any normal break up or treat it like an addiction? Reply to this Question
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reader, green eyed mulatto  +, writes (4 August 2011):
 Hmmm it sounds to me as if you are some what co-dependant on this relationship! You know you are not in love tih this man but seem to keep going back to him probably because you are used to him and a little afraid of what will happen without the security you had of just settling for some one you know you can't build a future with!
I would see this as cutting your losses and finally moving on to find the person that will finally satisfy all your needs and desires of having a real foundation with and a future not just friendship and sex...you have split with this person; now you are available for the right man to come into your life. Well wishes I'm sure you will find him have faith and don't settle!
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