A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I think my marriage is headed for a divorce and we haven't even been married for two years. Our one year anniversary was April 9th. He forgot. Which is nothing unusual, he would forget his own name if he didn't have to sign paperwrk at his job. His job is stressful, he's the manager, driver, and grease trap guy, he does everything, so I try and help him out when I can, but nothing I do is right. He was complaining about me calling some guy hun a few weeks ago, naturally, I didn't think anything about calling the guy hun as this is the way I talk. I've got a serious southern accent I call everyone names like that, even women, but anyway, he said something about it, so I've been trying to cut it out, but the other day I caught him calling one of the women at his corporate office hun over the phone. I kept my mouth shut even though it got under my skin, but our sex life has went south and it's almost like it is a chore for him to kiss me or even say I love you, so I tell him I love him and walk off. I don't even stand there for a kiss anymore. He rarely talks to me, unless it's about work. I'm at my wits end. Do I treat him the same way he's treating me? Or do I just ignore it and go on about my business, pretending everything is fine? Talking to him doesn't work because then he says I sound like his ex-wife. What do I do?
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (18 May 2009):
 You work with him. You live with him. You are with him 24 / 7 sounds like a dream. But, it's a nightmare. This is actually pretty common. My wife tried to work for the family business once it was a similar disaster. You two pprobably need a little space. There are other issues. When he said you are like his ex that is a red flag. He has some unresolved issues. He is also under a lot of stress. Not good for a ny wed couple. I think that a professional councelor could be a great help to you. It is much more tempting after a divorce to give up easily. You need to be proactive and fight to keep it together. A mini vacation will help break the stress cycle. Even if it is only a long lunch. Also if both of you don' like the first councelor don't be afraid to change. Personality really affects the effctiveness of counceling.
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