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writes:So, it'll be a year next friday since I fell in love with my teacher, she's a girl and so am I, and she's approximately 15 years older than me.I'm 15 and I leave school just before my 18th birthday in about 2 and a half years time. I know it's quite a while away, but I don't know if I should tell her I love her when I leave school?I've decided that I don't have the guts to tell her now because I don't want to ruin the kind of semi-friendship that we have, but I'm so confused as to how to tell her and whether I even should do it?!Even if she says that she doesn't feel the same, I don't want to spend my life regretting not telling her, and I don't want to have wasted 3 years loving her!I'd really appreciate some ideas and opinions. But don't tell me I'm infatuated or crazy because I'm about 99% sure I'm not.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2009): i love my music teacher and i think i'm going to tell her but i been thinking if i was a boy and we would be in the classroom having sex and kissing and i been wantingto tell her but i'm afraid to tell her cuz i been hearing that u would get in trouble so i would tell her but tell her to plz not tell on me.she really is cool and will sit and talk to me about it but i dont think he would rat me out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009): Don't tell her, even when you leave! She might be straight, and then it'll be a million times as embarrassing! You're a student, she's a teacher, try making friends and going out with people your own age, you'll soon move on.
I know how you feel though, I've kinda had feelings for one of my teachers recently, but I don't want to ruin the semi-friendship either. We get along, but I'm not going to do anything about it, and never will. I'll have him until I'm 18 or 19, and I'm 14, but I'm not planning to tell him I have/I had a crush on him when I was 14!
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (24 January 2009):
chances are that she has a bf,husband or gf. who knows. she will only see you as a student and nothing else, especially if she is professional.i think you need to try and get over your feelings for her. as nothing can happen, plus who knows what you will be doing by the time you reach 18. you may even have someone else. don't waste your teenage years dreaming about what could be with a teacher. as it won't happen. harsh i know, but she won't risk her career for a student.
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reader, angelicbee6  +, writes (24 January 2009):
Omg! I thought I was the only person that has ever loved her teacher. I started to like my science teacher who is about 12 years older than me. I'm 17 and currently he's 29 but i started liking him in eighth grade at age 14. Now I'm in high school and I can't stop thinking about him and missing him. I wanted to tell him I loved him but then some aunts from this website told me it wouldn't be a good idea until I'm out of high school and become a legalized adult. So now I've been trying really hard to get over him and when I started to miss him I knew it was love. People say lust fades away after you stop seeing the person but love lasts thats how you know. I would say def. wait as hard as it may be. It was hard for me to hear too but it all makes sense because then you'll leave her in an awkward position. Just remember we're in the same boat and love waits! Just try to go on with your life and take each day slow for now.
Good Luck Hun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009): Look i think you should tell her when you leave.but what happens if she doesnt love you then you will feel embarassed so. Well go for it
good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009): 2 1/2 years is a long time, so you have plenty of time to decide.
If you still feel that way, you could probably put it in a thank you card before graduation.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (24 January 2009):
Don't even think about telling her till you are no longer a pupil. She will have to report it to her boss (the head teacher) and imagine how embarrassing that could be.
If when you leave school you still feel the same then go for it, you will be 2 adults and you will be free to do what ever you like.
For now enjoy getting to see her and getting to know her and carry on as you are.
Good Luck!! xx
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