A
male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes: I've fallen big time for one of my best freinds, We've knowen each other for years, do I keep my feelings to myself or tell her and risk loosing her as a freind
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reader, lboy +, writes (19 December 2006):
dear reader,
i think that you should wait till you and your friend are alone then tell her straight out how you feel, although if she is in a relationship then i would advise you to wait until she is single again, please don't try to hide how you feel because that kind of thing can ruin a friendship like your as you may start acting differently around her and treating her completely different, so just follow your heart and do what YOU think is right, don't forget we agony aunts and uncles are not there to tell you what to do we are here to tell you what he THINK that you should do.
good luck
lboy
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female
reader, stina +, writes (18 December 2006):
(BTW - if she is already involved in a relationship, don't say anything to her about it. And if she becomes single again, then that's great! But don't try to break up a relationship she's in, either. I know you're probably thinking "duh!," but I've seen too many questions like this here when the best friend is already seeing someone else. That's a sure way to lose the friendship and/or confuse the hell out of your friend. I don't think you'd want to do either if you cared about her. :) )
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female
reader, stina +, writes (18 December 2006):
Hi there Anonymous,
If you two are close friends, then you falling for her and her knowing about it shouldn't affect the relationship on a serious level. I think that afterwards, if she doesn't feel as comfortable around you, then it would be best to distance yourself. But it's nothing to lose a friend over. She may just feel flattered, if she doesn't feel the same way. Of course there is the chance that she may not react very well, but what if things work out the way you hope? You'll never know unless you take a chance.
But let me ask you - will you regret it if you don't tell her your feelings? Think about that and you'll probably know what to do.
Take care.
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