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writes: I met my boyfriend in the summer and everything was great between us, but as time went on he got two jobs and bought a brand new car. All he does is sleep and work, even when i hang out with him. He never has anything interesting to say to me anymore, and i am just plain bored. He wont even take me out anymore. He also can be mean to me, and i always feel like i have done something wrong. We fight while we have sex. Sometimes he calls me a stupid bitch, and a whore, but then swears he was kidding. He doesn't believe in doing romantic things, but it would be nice if he did. I always do things for him, and he never seems to appreciate it. I am miserable, but hes all i care about and i love him so much. I wish we could make things work, but he doesnt think a relationship should require work..i know he cares about me, but he just he is bad at showing it. what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): I'm sorry. The sarcasm really got the best of me.
In short, Ms. Anon, he clearly doesn't care about you. He takes you totally for granted. He doesn't deserve to have any form of intimate or loving relationship. You clearly and blatanly need to get away from this guy. He's doing you no good in staying. Thinking that someone cares is very different than actually caring about someone.
Please, helping you take out the garbage and take you out to McD's once in a blue moon doesn't translate to caring.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): He cares about you in spirit right? Just as I care about some Joe and Jane in X country in spirit. Thus they should love be back and do all sorts of things for me, because I care about them in spirit. NICE! [thumbs way up]
[sigh]
No Ms. Anon. I believe your lowered self-esteem has caused you to 'love him so much'. He clearly doesn't care about you. Saying that a person does, is very very very very blatantly different than actually doing it.
[laughs]
Key factors, shall we? [takes a sip of my eggnog laced with Bailey's]
1. he calls you a whore and a stupid bitch - nice
2. he is not romantic at all
3. he doesn't make the effort in doing anything with you
4. he's a lazy f**ktard
5. you and him don't talk about anything
6. there is absolutely and blatanly no growth between you two
7. he doesn't appreciate you
8. you feel like crap
[ponders]
OH YEAH, I THINK HE IS DEFINITELY worth staying together with. OH YEAH! FOR SURE! On a similar note, I need to ask my friend from NRC to build me a rocket so I can fly into space away from Earth.
[coughs] BAD AT SHOWING THAT HE CARES?!?!? ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!? Are you seriously kidding me? Wow. Alrighty, fine, he's awesome. Please tell me you're 5 years old and not quite right in the head.
Is my sarcasm and my bluntness working?
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