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writes:I just want to ask dat im nt a virgin, should i tell my boy friend about my secret b'coz we r planning to get married.Sometimes, i feel dat i should tell him the truth b'coz i feel embarrace dat i m not loyal to him..Plz suggest me.Thanx.. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2010): The OP is not marrying her culture. She is marrying one man.
Has that one man had sex with other women before? Does he care about her sexual history? Those questions are what is important.
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reader, ShyNick  +, writes (26 June 2010):
Really don't want to understand the dilemma. So men are allowed to do sex before marriage and women don't? Is it all men that want to marry a virgin woman?
Really in life this must be the last thing to care. You Love him? He Loves you? You feel both strong to face the life and all the problems which may cross over? Will the one take care of the other? So many thoughts about Life and sex is the nice part the one that helps a couple to pass all the bad and sad moments. So I don't know what your believes are about sex before marriage but sure thing "for me" it doesn't concern nobody except you.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (25 June 2010):
 Right, the cultural side of this dilema is punctuated by the others that have answered, In our culture it's more "acceptable" to have had sex with others bfore marriage. I'm not sure that is a good thing though. I'd like to think the wedding night is a first for both partners but I'd be living on a different planet. Wouldn't that be nice though?
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reader, showoff201  +, writes (25 June 2010):
Tell him!!! Hes gonna be mad but not for long trust me! That little detail wont make him call off the marriage, hes gonna find out eventually regardless!
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (25 June 2010):
 I don't know about your culture?
What would happen if you told him? Normally I would say that of course you should be honest with him. However, I would not want you to be shunned or broken down because of this.
So what would happen?
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (25 June 2010):
 I'm assuming sex before marriage is frowned upon in your culture. Does your boyfriend share this view? Because if he does then there isn't much of a problem. However if he believes in no sex before marriage very strongly, maybe you should think about what else you disagree on and how compatible you really are.
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