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writes:I've been in a relationship with an awesome guy for 4 months but known him a few months before. Sometimes it pops in my head 'i love you' but I can't say it out loud. I'm pretty sure he does too as he gives obvious hints. I look at him sometimes and I think he knows because he asks what I'm thinking and I just say 'oh nothing'. I've been deeply hurt in the past, in fact it was only over a year ago. I don't love my ex anymore now as I see him around and just feel nothing or hatred. I just want to know if it would be ok to say I love you at this stage or if I keep it to myself because I'm scared because I think I am. Do I keep it to myself or leave saying it for longer? I must love him if I think it in my head but I'm just scared incase I get hurt again. Do I say it, yes or no?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2012): That's a good decision, if you wait till you're ready then you will probably feel more comfortable too. Him saying he can't imagine life without you makes it sound like he does love you, but who knows perhaps isn't quite ready to say it himself.
Does sound like he may be a keeper though, so I wish you two the very best of luck for the future.
Not a problem btw, happy to help. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, I'm sure when I'm ready ill say it. He says he can't imagine life without me now but no love mentioned. I'm happy as we are and in time we both might say it. The reason like you said I don't wanna say it incase it goes wrong. If he says it ill definitely say it back :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2012): I'm of the belief that it takes 4 months for any potential infatuation to wear off, but that's my belief. I'm also of the belief that everyone has different views on how long it takes for any potential infatuation to wear off, some may say 6 months, or possible even longer.
So, with that said, it is ultimately up to you if you feel comfortable and ready to say this to him. It can be a nice little surprise, or 'treat', to suddenly hear this from the person you're in a relationship with.
Perhaps, assuming that you two do this, you could just say this sort-of casually whilst laying there in bed cuddled up to each other.
Sorry I can't give you a yes or no answer, part of the reason behind this is that I'd probably end up feeling guilty if I said you definitely should do this and it results in your relationship ending.
Hope this helps(?), and good luck! Please do come back and update this question with any outcome(s).
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