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writes:SO there is this guy that I really like. I dont really know if my affections are justified because we have only really talked a couple of times. He goes to my church. Anyways I have a crush on him. A big one. He is so handsome and sweet and laidback. That was my impression of him all the times that i saw him anyways. So he is leaving to another country this sunday. He wont be back for 2 whole years. We are kind of like regular aquaintances right now. So i dont know if i should tell him i like him or if i should just let the crush go. When he comes back, he will be 18 and i will be 17 a couple months after him. I dont really know what to do. Should I tell him that i have feelings for him, risking our fragile companionship and possibly be the laughingstock at my church (which probs wont happen bc he is a nice guy, but you know how guys are) or should i just not tell him i like him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2016): I would say the same as other ask him if he wants to keep in touch and then go from there. There is no sense in telling him when it won't change anything and also if he doesn't feel the same it can cause unnecessary awkwardness for the both of you and could ruin something that could develop over the years.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 June 2016):
 I wouldn't tell him about the crush.
If he doesn't feel the same way, he will feel awkward about you and not want any contact.
If he DOES feel the same there is nothing either of you can do, as he will be gone for 2 years.
I agree with Denizen, why not ask him if you can add him to e-mail, Facebook (if you have one) and then "talk" while he is gone. You can fill him in (not gossip though) what's going on back here and hopefully he can tell you about what's going on where he is at.
Remember having a crush is OK, but... it can be a one-way deal. JUST because YOU like him, doesn't mean he feels the same or owes you attention or affection. A crush is usually a sort of fantasy, where we hope the feelings are mutual, in reality the whole thing is not about LOVE but infatuation. We are crushing on a person based on what WE *think* they are like. Reality can be very different. And honestly? There is a good chance that if you get to know him he will be de-mystified.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (7 June 2016):
 Just ask him if he would like to keep in touch. In two years a lot can happen - particularly at your age. In two year's time you will both have grown up considerably. You may have met other people you like as much, or more. However that shouldn't stop your friendship if you stay in touch. So I think that is the way to go. It will also help you with the loss of someone you like very much.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (7 June 2016):
 You could do, but it may hurt more because you can't act on it if he reciprocates. Long distance is hard for adults, let alone young teens, so I'd vote not telling him, but it's up to you.
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