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writes: i am 35 years old woman i have 2 kids from both diffirent father,why is that happen well its a long story.but for sure i have a reason for that.im not bad'im honest and sincere person,things happen,happen you know'but i am not that looking bad, but also not that pretty, just ordinary looking i can say just to be honest.my question is this' theres one guy, younger than me he is only 32 years old, very gentleman,very high educated,good income and single. we meet once when i was only 30 years old for a couple of days,we never had sex but just kissing.and i never mention to him my kids since i thought it was that short time we gonna talk.but then after 3 years, we meet again by online,actually he is always on my list and i didnt realise that its the same on him.he start talking to me on the online and he call me on the phone.he said he wanna be with me he said he like me' what does it mean by the way when he said he like me? well he call me sweetheart too,i cant answer him words against him,i just ride on i say i like him too,which is true,i called him sweetheart too, he want me to meet him again.i dont wanna play game, im hurt enough in my pass experience and by the way im still single,single parents of two angels of mine.the thing is'shall i trust this? if i tell him the truth about my two little angels do you think he will change his mind?im scared to tell the truth but i do like him too,but im scared since he is the kind of man of what woman's looking for. any idea how i can move or deal in this situation?pls. helllllllppppppp... thanks a lot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): My boyf has a 7 year old son from a previous relationship and from the very start he was open and honest with me about him!! I was glad that he felt he could trust me enough at such an early stage to tell me about him and his commitment towards him, like how he see's him twice a week and that his son stays over at his house on a Friday nite.
Honesty is very important in any relationship and if you like this guy enough to date him and want something more with him - your better off telling him about your children from the start...
Good luck and hope it turns out the way you would like it to...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): You have to come clean from the word go. Your kids are precious and you should never be ashamed of them or of having them. It has nothing to do with other people that you have two by two different fathers. I have three by two different dads so don't worry about that. They are your pride and joy and stop trying to hide them. If that puts him off then he obviously isn't for you! You can't go through life pretending that they don't exist. You are doing an excellent job of bringing them up so brag about it and them! Be assertive and tell them straight how it is.
Best wishes and do take care
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (8 January 2007):
 i think now is the right time for you to tell him about your angels, omitting this type of information is very dangerous because u might find that at the later stage u have grown to like him too and u dont know how he will react if you tell him about them not because you will be ashamed to tell but because there was never a right time to disclose them and the risk of loosing him seem high and you start feeling like u have been lying to him. so tell him now while still online so that it gives him time to decide if he wants to be in a relationship with a single mother or not, because you also dont want to be in a relationship with a man who resents your children. and remember the way you handle this will determine the type of relationship he will have with u and your children.
if he accept you a mother then you can look forward to that date, if he doesnt then you will know it was not meant be. just be honest before things gets sizzling. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): Has he asked you out for a date yet? If he says he likes you it means he likes you.
You can't hide your little angels from him so what good would lying about then do? You don't have to tell him about them until you are ready to do so though, maybe wait until you go out with him once or twice and see if there is any chance this will move off line.
Take care, and be careful, find out more about him before you get too seriously infatuated.
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