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writes: heya any advice would be greatly appreciated right now.Basically I went out with this girl for about 3 years, and 3 years ago we broke up. After about 6 months of no contact, we started being friends again. I would say we are extremely close friends now, and by some bizarre twist of fate have ended up moving in together, with 3 other people. I realise that I still have feelings for her, and we have hooked up and fooled around on numerous occasions, even though she had a long term boyfriend at the time.I think she knows I have feelings for her, and I'm pretty sure she has for me. Last week she broke up with her boyfriend under pretty bad circumstances, i.e. he cheated on her. Despite her knowing (i think) how I feel, last night she went out on a date with some guy she met at a party, she told us it was to get back at her ex, but this really cut me up, and I'm not great at hiding my feelings, but tried my best to conceal them. Obviously she noticed something was wrong, and has been asking me about it all day. I've told her it was nothing I couldn't handle, which brings me to my dillemma.Do I tell her exactly how I feel and risk changing our friendship (also considering we live together). Or do I keep it quiet and deal with it myself. For the record my friends despite their suspicions don't know for sure how I feel about her. I've never been good at talking about my feelings, and that was part of the reason we broke up. Any input would really help me out :).
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006): It sounds like there is a lot of drama in this arrangement of livingn together as roommates and hooking up and fooling around so why are you surprised that she is with a cheating boyfriend and sleeping with someone else for revenge sex?
If you like drama queens that will probably continue to cheat on their boyfriends, then by all means, tell her how you feel, your friends and roommates be damned (they already know trust me)....It is no wonder that this cuts you up, that is what drama does to you, are you sure you have genuine feelings for her, or is it just your jealous ego at stake here?
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