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writes:My daughter's dad and I haven't communicated for the past week. We usually do things on the weekends however, since I made the last comment of having sole and physical custody of our daughter. To cut a long story short, he wants to be part of our lives again. He has gone out of our relationship twice. I have held our family together financially and physically. However, I couldn't take the dishonesty and cheating any more. I was behind on my own bills because I was taking care of us including his two kids from his first marriage. He was kicked out of the navy in which he could have retired this past February with full benefits but unfortunately that didn't happen. With the stress level of a skyscraper and my funds being extremely limited and our daughter being in an environment of negativity with him around, I couldn't take it anymore. So, we left. Now, he wants to be a part of our lives. Since last week, I haven't heard from him. I feel so stupid for letting him back into our lives. What should I do if he decides he wants to talk?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTommy7: I really do appreciate your opinion. He doesn't want to be apart of her life. He gave up his rights...coming in and out of her life with no explanation why? I rather keep her away from her father then having her father hurt her. Her father has already hurt her by signing over his rights.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (8 October 2007):
Your daughter will hold a grudge against you when she is older for keeping her from her father. You are punishing her for something not her fault.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTommy7: Allow him visitation? He gave up his rights as her father. He never tried calling one to see her, spend time with her. So, my answer WILL be NO!!!
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (7 October 2007):
You shouldn't get back with him, but you should allow him some reasonable visitation with his daughter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007): You've done the really hard bit and broke off with him.You have managed without him and can logically see he was no help to you in the past.Deep down you must know hes not going to change.He is trying to get back in youre life as he has relised just how much easier it was FOR HIM.He sounds like a loser..and you sound like a great mother to your little girl.You have put her first...he hasnt thought of you or her...only himself.Talk to him...just to tell him you have moved on and are happy now.Believe it yourself.you are well rid of him... remember that...try not to talk to him unless absolutly necccessary..eliminate him from your life as much as possible.Dont do things as a family with him..let him visit your daughter..but go out of room..when she is older he can arrange outings with her.cut your losses..you've come this far;dont go back there.beat of luck
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