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Do I take the chance or give up before anyone gets hurt?

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Question - (26 August 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 14 October 2009)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Before the story my question is do I take the chance or give up before anyone gets hurt?

The background is we met at work, he pursued me but I rejected him at first because I just don't want to be hurt again. Ended up giving him my number like 2 weeks after he originally asked for it and started talking. I have a 2 year old daughter and he has 3 kids with two women. After our first date he told me he is still technically married but is going through the divorce process. After our first date I've noticed a change, he seems distant if were having a conversation over text he randomly stops texting and we haven't hung out outside of work since the first date. To a certain extent I understand he is busy with the kids but not sure if I should wait for him since the divorce is still fresh and I'm not sure what he is looking for from me, he says I'm special and he can see us being together and happy but im not sure how this can progress without talking more and him putting in some effort. Everytime I get fed up and am about to give up he knows exactly what I want to hear and will open up and talk to me, but it's always temporary before he clams up again. What to do? Questions to ask him? Im not looking for marriage just a nice guy so I don't want him to think I'm pressuring him into anything either, we've both been hurt so don't know where to go from here.

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A female reader, Smellyellie United Kingdom +, writes (14 October 2009):

Smellyellie agony auntWOW.. this seems like a difficult relationship. This Guy sounds abit sleezy to be honest and i wouldnt trust him. To me it sounds like he is playing the field abit have you ever thought of the possibiblity that he has been on dates with other women while he has been on them with you????

How othen does he say he has his kids and does he really have them or is this just a cover up??

this man really doesnt sound worth it and i would quit while you are still ahead!!! There are plenty more fish in the sea that will worship the ground that you walk on! :D hope that this help!! x

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