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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:There is a man i have fancied from affar for a long time. I dont know him very well, however the other night, we were both at the same bar for a party, and we hit it off, flurted all night, and ended up kissing... Thing is, i am currently in a relationship which i just dont seem to be satisfied with. The man i fancy does know this, and said he didn't want to become involved with me whilst i was in this situation (which i apprecitate). Thing is, i need to sort my life out, and i dont know now whether it is worth loosing everything i have with my partner (we live together) for a guy who might just be a fantasy in my head. He gave me his number, and said for me to call him if my situation changes, and that he hopes things sort themselves out. I know this was the decent thing to do, but i do wonder if he really would want to give it a go given things were different? What do i do? Do i just write this off as a fantasy situation - things may not work between us even if i do break it off with my boyfriend. Or do i stay with my boyfriend, try my best to make things work between us, rekindle the spark etc, and just pretend this crush never happend? (even though i know kissing my crush was wrong in the first place given my situation).
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reader, Blowfish  +, writes (19 December 2008):
I think you should assess your current relationship with your boyfriend. Talk to him, see how you can make things work. Or if indeed you feel it's not worth going on, again talk to him. Let him know. My wife was in the same situation as you, but she decided not to tell me. Had her fling, and now I have another man's child in my house. Don't make the same mistake. A lack of communication can lead to disaster in your relationship.
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