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writes:dear cupid i dont know what to do i have been with my husband for nearly three years and we have a daughter together who is three mths.i also have another daughter who is five but her dad was someone else i used to be married too. The problem is my husband has never really got on with my eldest daughter they argue all the time. plus he never helps me round the house even though im in plaster as broke my ankle the first 2 days he was great then he just stopped as usual. since having my daughter i have gone off sex am just too tired i just dont seem to want it.i dont know if i still love him as yet again he has walked out but i dont miss him am glad. just dont know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 February 2008):
 He could be going for a 'walk-about' and then return again. His absence could be only temporary.You try to get along as best as you can.
Try to rebuild your own life. Know who you are and what you want in life.That will be your mission.
Take charge of your own life back and know that you are responsible for your own happiness.Do not depend on others to provide you the happiness.
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (13 February 2008):
 Hi there,Take a moment, sit down, pour yourself a cup of tea or coffee or whatever will help to sooth your nerves. You are always concerned about everybody else and you need to be a little kinder to yourself. Your little one needs you, your older child needs you. Your husband and daughter probably argue because she has not accepted him as a stepfather yet. Your husband may resent her because she is a child of your first marriage, sometimes people get jealous over things that we don't understand. The three of you might want to sit down and talk about the situation or go to family counseling, to reach a better relationship between the two of them.About whether you love your husband or not, you must answer that question, but may I ask you a question, do you feel more peaceful with him gone, do you miss his company or are you relieved and happy that he is n not there? Does your heart beat faster at the thought of him not coming back or the thought of him staying away? What I am asking is, could you be happy and satisfied if he never came back, if so, you have your answer. I would also ask you to pamper yourself a little, take time to distress, love yourself more. Good luck to you and your family. It also sounds as if you would be happier if he stayed away.
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (13 February 2008):
 If he doesn't make you happy anymore, let him go. Don't think that you have to have him around for your mutual daughter. If he is as noncommital as a dad as he is as a husband, it'll only harm your youngest daughter. She'll grow up with a warped image of what a man is.
I hope you can get him to either step up to his responsibiities or let him go.
Your hormones are crazy from just having a baby. Its like when I'm close to my period I get super horny and then after I don't wanna do sex at all for a while. Nothing is wrong with you. If he's demanding sex from you, then tell him to back off. You just had his baby and he should be a bit more considerate. And you have a broken ankle? Hell no...If he's asking for sex when you're in pain, then he's an ass and you need to lose him.
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