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writes:So heres the deal... i have been dating this girl for 15 months and i love her soo very much but in the past few months it feels like we have been going downhill fast Sooo then i have been talking to this other girl and i have known her for a couple months, we are like best friends now and we know a lot about each other. But this girl and my girlfriend are going to roommate.So heres the questionsA. Do I stick it out with my girlfriend or cut it off?B. Do i break it up and try to make something of the other girlC. Do i break it up with my girlfriend but just keep the same with the other girlI really need help and quick so if you could that would be awesome
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all of ur advice the only thing i have to add is ya they are friends and are going to room together but the thing is she hasnt told my gf a word about us talking and me and her are much better friends then her and my girlfriend so i have a feeling she would stay more loyal to me... but thanks again
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (4 February 2009):
 I think the last post is very true - the most important thing for you to do is not go anywhere near this other girl! It will only cause trouble in a number of ways so staying away is the best thing for you to do.With regards to your girlfriend; you say you love her. So do you love her enough to try and make it work? Or has the love faded somewhat and you feel it is time to move on? Only you can decide whether or not to break it off with your girlfriend; if you think there is something there worth saving then talk to her. Tell her how you are feeling and try and work through your problems.Only issue with staying with your girlfriend is the girl who she is going to room with may feel jealous that you two are working things out and she may tell your girlfriend about all your conversations (and she will probably elaborate on the truth making you sound bad).I think you have dug yourself a bit of a hole here by talking to this girl who is a friend of your girlfriends; you have set yourself up for problems especially if this other girl has started to have feelings for you. The only way that you can get out of this mess without any repercussions is to end it with both of them and stay clear of the two! Friends tend to be quite loyal to each other and I dont think you will win in this situation.Good luck!
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reader, jackie rose  +, writes (4 February 2009):
 ok if you don't wanna hurt either of them tell em' and they will under stand if they don't theres always lots of fishes in the sea. but if the other girl is just perfect for you then go for it and see what you get out of this..
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reader, The old Man? +, writes (4 February 2009):
 If you break it off with your girlfriend, I'd stay away from the friend. If they are going to room together, that will cause problems for the two of them.
You are also setting yourself up for accusations of cheating with the friend, OR if you and the friend get together, the new girl may feel uncomfortable that you and the old girl were once an item. Again, another opportunity to be accused of cheating.
I hope you can make sense of that. In a nutshell, I see problems heading your way if you pursue the friend.
Go fish in a different pond!
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