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anonymous
writes:There's this amazing girl, mind blowing girl that I have fallen for. I was her first love and she was mine, without going into detail, she now has a boyfriend who she loves and I'm back out of the blue.She has admitted that she loves me and can't deal with me not being in her life, but wont leave her boyfriend. Basicly she wants me to stay in her life. Problem is, my hearts in agony and each day it bears me down so much.Then I when I speak to her, I can't but help feel so destroyed.Now I've just pulled all contact with her, I got very fustrated in a conversation and said I need to move on.I have no idea what to do here, because every part of me wants to stay in her life to make her happy. But I just can't deal with the pain.Advice please! Do I get back in contact and stay with her, bare the pain for love, or do I run?!
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reader, tumelo  +, writes (5 January 2009):
love is the hardest thing that any human being can ever come i aross, im currently in a same situation as you, it is just that the person that is involved is the one who is iniating a relationship between us, i love him to bits he was my first imagine the bond we share,look ask yourself 1 thing am i ready to deal with the pain of losing her forever or can i stay and make it work with her, dont try to compete with her boyfriend,rather be there as a friend,i know a person can only take so much so good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): I'm going through something similar, my GF's ex wanted her back and she didn't know who she wanted to be with, so I walked away, even tho i'm crazy about her.I thought I could still be her friend and chat to her every day like before, but it hurts like hell when she mentions him :(. I really don't think anyone is worth putting yourself through torture in the hope she will leave her current BF.I would cut contact, be a man and don't cave in, maybe she will realise how much she misses you and will contact you in time.
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