A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:i have met a boy 2 years older than me on an online game. we have been talking dirty to each other qiute a lot and i like it. the problem is that i really like him but i dont no whether i should ask him if he likes me and if we should be together as i dont no him personally. please help.i really like this person. whenever i talk to him i get butterflies in my tummy and i feel really nice. when i think of him it makes me feel good and i dont seem to worry about the way i look or what people think of me any more. when i think of him at night it makes me get all hot and sweaty. i have never felt this way about somebody. i would like to know if i actually love him or not or if it is just because i want somebody? and if i should ask him about how he feels? please help.
View related questions:
online game Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, mizz_m +, writes (1 November 2008):
 Thats how I met my boyfriend! On an online game site! I met many boys from the internet. I did that so I wouldnt be in such a trouble as you. Its better to know who you talking with, than falling in "love" with some image you created of the person (since you dont know him I think you fantasise about him in the best light possible). If that makes any sense :3Ask him if he would like you two meet up, if he says no, take this experience as a lil class in dirty talk and forget about him, or talk with him bit more, or just play games with him. Maybe you aint met to be serious about eachother?If he says yes, make sure someone knows where you are. And meet the guy in a busy place eg. mall, where you 2 can go for a coffee or something. And remember you aint the only one that feels like this.Just be careful and enjoy yourself! xxxx Mizz M
A
reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2008): I hate to tell you this, but there is a good chance that he is more than 2 years older than you. He could be 10, 20, or 30 years older even. Maybe not, but probably. You don't know, because it's online. A lot of adults play these types of online games, and you never know who you're talking to. I'm not even a parent, and that's still my first reaction. If you ever get to the point of wanting to meet this guy, make sure your parents know about it. Seriously.
Anyway, now that's out of the way, what you're feeling is normal. If you're feeling a burn in your stomach, and it's like someone just turned on the heater, that's an intense case of lust. When a guy you like desires you too, and says things that make you feel pretty, it's normal to feel that way, and it's a really powerful feeling. Love can be part of that, but that's not really what it is. Love is one of those things that's not so much a fuzzy feeling as it is a deep commitment. That sounds kind of boring and serious, but when it happens, it's the most beautiful bond that can happen between a man and a woman. You can love someone without liking them at all. You may like them without loving them just as well. You can both like and love them. Love is a generous giving of your whole life to this other person, and it really comes best after you've had time to grow up and find out who you are first. Also, I don't think you can really grow to love someone just by talking to him online. Even if the guy is who he says he is, the mental picture that you develop of him by talking online is different than if you got to know him in person.
Take Care,
...............................
|
