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anonymous
writes:Hi.My girlfriend and I Have been together for 6 months, with a brief history before this particular relationship. It is at the point, as hard as it is to believe, where we are thinking about our future together. We have begun to plan our lives around each other and are getting ready to support one another. My problem is after our earlier history she had sex with another guy, while she has remained my only one. I often think about if she is proud that she's had more than me.. and I have also been thinking, do I really know she is the one if she's the only person I've had sex with? I feel as if i'm missing out on an opportunity or gaining new knowledge, and at the same time I don't want to lose her. But it drives me nuts to know I will live my whole life having her as my only one, and her not being able to say the same. I am young, so that plays a big roll aswell. Should I be settling down this early in my life? I know theres plenty of questions here.. Thank you for any support.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008): i've definatley felt the way u feel. we've been together for 1 1/2 yrs n it did bother me that hes the only 1 ive slept with whilst it isnt the same for him, hes also my first serious bf. but as time went on i just kinda got over that. however i wud be lying if i sed i never wondered what it would be like 2 b with other people, especially when we would be going through a bad phase,but i reckon thats natural and people are always gonna be curious.
for me tho i'v come to think ive got a good thing with him so in my opinion whats the point in wasting time being with, most probably, real shitty people who r gonna make me feel like shit. id rather b happy as life is too short.
about settling down..its nice to talk about the future but it doesnt necessarily mean ur actually gonna end up together 4ever. u just gotta enjoy the moment & the fact that someone really makes u happy n loves u. ur young so things will occur to really change circumstances, then who knows what will happen.
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reader, MadHatter214  +, writes (14 March 2008):
 It never works out with the first person you sleep with because no matter how happy you are your gonna be curious about being with other women, which leads to cheating. It's really rare that it does work out with the first person you sleep with. Good Luck
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reader, heather1030 +, writes (14 March 2008):
You are still young! You have all the time in the world to figure out if she is the one, so why rush things? It does not matter how many people you have or havn't had sex with. You know when you love someone and the past should not matter. If you are having doubts, just take your time and think about what is right for you.
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