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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for several years now. Things have always been fantastic with us. We both consider we have a special bond. We are the best of friends as well as being in love.This has been the hardest year of our lives. Last year, I was preoccupied with huge work commitments and he became involved with a friend of his. Not sexually involved, but he was talking to her about what had been happening with his work etc. She got the wrong idea, thought it was the start of something. Because he hadn't told me about how often they'd been chatting, when I found out through someone else that they'd been seen together, I jumped to conclusions. Anyway, it's now been several months and we've talked it out a million times and are working to rebuild the trust.We both consider we have something really special. To be honest, this is the first long-term relationship I've ever had, so I have no basis for comparison. I'd appreciate it if you could let me know your opinions.We can talk about anything and everything. We talk for hours on the phone and lose track of time.We love falling asleep in each other's arms and being close together.We look forward to seeing each other at the end of the day.We can make each other laugh and have all sorts of crazy jokes between the two of us. We can always have an absolute blast together being in the same room, with nothing else to do.. just talking and laughing. The chemistry has always been there with us.. physically and mentally.He's the one person I feel I can turn to when something's going wrong in my life.. or if I'm sick, he's the first person I want to see. He always manages to cheer me up and comfort me.He's the very intellectual, serious one.. and I'm the happy-go-lucky spontaneous one.. sort of like the dynamic between Richard Gere and Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman. I help him loosen up and he keeps me grounded etc.We love the outdoors, tramping, cycling, swimming, walks together.. we love being around nature.We're both huge animal lovers and will do rediculous things like saving worms on the street. We'll take in strays or sick animals and look after them. We're never happier than when we're out doing something together, just having fun. I feel like when I'm with him, I'm truely free to just be myself, even if I want to act like a big kid. It's those times we're doing those SIMPLE things together that I'm feeling happier than ANYWHERE else.I would really appreciate it if you could give me your opinions. Do I have something REALLY special here.. like marriage territory for instance? Or are those the sorts of things that exist in ANY real relationship? We don't live together, but I'd like us to take it to the next step. We plan to travel overseas soon in the hopes of working more at what we have and progressing as a couple.Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Mr.H  +, writes (24 August 2010):
Girl don't hesitate you guys look like the perfect couples marry him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): Girl I think you guys match don't hesitate to marry this man.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 August 2010):
 "He's the very intellectual, serious one.. and I'm the happy-go-lucky spontaneous one.. sort of like the dynamic between Richard Gere and Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman."
Wait, you're saying you're a high class hooker!?! (just kidding)
Honestly it sounds like you've found a great match and you should cherish what you two have. It is hard to find someone that you are compatible with on so many levels. If living together goes well I think you've got the foundation for a long and wonderful relationship. Sometimes things aren't too good to be true. Good on you for doing your best to recognize that.
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