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writes: After an exhausting break-up with my ex, I met this wonderful guy online. He seems like a really nice guy. Our conversation was always decent. We talk about our professions, our jobs, our families, our dreams in life, our likes and dislikes. We even talked about our exes and why we split with them. We felt like we were a good match. The only thing is that, he is in England and I am in UAE. I like him because he is a decent guy and talks decently and respectful to me. But mind you, we never touch topic about sex which is what I like best and the reason why I was interested of him more.Yet the more we talk, the more he seems to get serious with me. He emails me at least twice a day to say hi. We chat for about 2 hours before I go to bed. He says he wants to commit to me and hopes that he wont freak me out. But he said he really likes me.The problem was I attempted to call his workplace out of curiosity and found out no guy of his name works there. Now this turned me off BIG TIME.He still sends me mails but I don't know what to do with him. Should I confront him or ignore him and forget him? I have started to have feelings for him and I am scared he is just a fake and that will only hurt me.So should I quit him now? Confront him? I need advise pls! Thanks in advance...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): I would confront him. In some companies no one knows everyone. Tell him you called his office and no one could find him. See how he responds. If he starts with excuses THEN ditch him there and then.
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reader, Jacey  +, writes (23 August 2009):
i would say get out of there now!especially if you have told him personal details about your life, eg where you live, your full name etc.he is most probably a 'fake', using someone elses pictures and claiming them to be him, false names, ages etc.trust me if a guy lies to you over the internet it is not worth the risk! i have been through that before, fallen 'in love' with someone i thought was someone else. these guys know what to say and how to say it. they make themselves seem like the ideal man.meeting people off the internet is bad bad bad! they could be anyone
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (23 August 2009):
 This is the problem with internet romances as you can never really know if someone is truthfully being honest with you.For all you know he could be a criminal.If you have attempted to call his work place and they have no record of someone with that name it should set alarm bells ringing in your head. Trust your intuition.Before you jump to conclusions why don't you gather proof before you decide to make or break with him. Make an excuse and ask him for his work email ID and be 100% sure of his full name before you query with his work again as it could be they have him down with a different version of name.If you have someone you know in England why don't you get them to meet him and verify for themselves that he is what he says he is?You can never really tell a guy/girl is good over the internet.It will only be known once you both spend time together physically and see if you have chemistry to make the relationship last. From my own experiences I know that people always put the nice part of themselves across through phone or email.When talking to someone on the phone or on email you never really get the full picture of their real behaviour and what ticks them off in life.Be cautious but if you like him then do your investigation of him before proceeding further.Good luck.
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