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writes:Thank you in advance to those who help me with this question. Went to a party last night with a friend. It was more of a get together and I did not know the people but they seemed nice enough. Everybody was pretty drunk but I was not as I needed to drive home as I had to work today. I broke up with my boyfriend a year or so ago and am a little out of touch with guys. One guy was giving me bs about what he did for a living. I already knew what he did as my friend told me. I told him I knew he was playing me a bit and he came clean and told me what he really did. I made a joke about how well this other guy was barbaquing the steaks and another guy, really drunk mind you started swearing at me and saying that he did it so much better. His girlfriend, who seemed really nice had her head in her hands. Do I put out loser vibes to guys or was the problem that I was perhaps sober in a party where most people were drunk? All replies appreciated and will be considered.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): We normally unconsciously seek out guys like our dads. Even though we may not see it at the time, it peeks through later. A psychologist told me this is because we feel comfortable with them. I don't know if you have a father in the home or what?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): It's not the vibe you put out. Afterall, if you did put up "loser vibes" I don't think many guys will think "oh i'm a loser and she's putting out vibes for a loser so i think i'll give it a go!"
If you want to meet more serious, career-oriented and mature men, then you have to go elsewhere than a party where people are drinking to find them. The guys who get drunk at parties probably don't have many other priorities that would keep them from getting drunk, like you did. Try going out sober with sober friends and their friends. Maybe you'll meet a nice friend of a friend who has more things to worry about than partying.
~Sy.
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reader, Perspicacious  +, writes (31 August 2009):
I'm sure you don't put out loser vibes.
When we are sober and surrounded by people that have had a drink or two we can really notice how silly their behaviour has become.
More worryingly, it can makes us realise that we probably act just as daftly when we are drinking too!
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