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writes:There's this guy I have been friends with for some time now. He is very sweet to me and I have recently realized I have feelings for him. I do not know for certain if these feelings are mutual, but he does express genuine affection towards me, mostly through long hugs and sweet smiles and those sort of "looks". I have recently found out that he is leaving soon for bootcamp which will last a couple of months. He will then almost immediately be sent overseas for a couple of years for active duty. This whole thing is leaving me depressed. I feel like I am being robbed a chance of love, or atleast the chance to explore my newfound feelings for my friend. Please note that I have had these feelings long before I ever learned he was leaving. I do not know what to do. I do not want to confuse the poor boy or cause him any sort of grief before he immerses himself into the army. However, I do not want to leave myself always wondering "what if". He is leaving very soon and I simply do not know what I should do. Do I leave things as they are and wish my friend a safe journey? Or do I somehow owe it to myself to put my feelings out there?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 August 2010):
 If it is yours,nothing will stop you from coming together. Great to hear that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to all who answered. He and I exchanged a few emails before he left. I expressed interest in us "hanging out sometime", but nothing came of it. I figured if he were interested in me, he would have taken me up on my offer. He has left for the army and I haven't spoken to him in months. We will probably remain friends, but I don't think we will ever be anything more. The sad thing is, as I was having this crush on him, I did not notice a man who truly did like me. This man and I started flirting and now we have been dating for a few weeks. Funny how things work out. When you least expect it, someone enters your life. I am completely over the army guy and am starting to fall hard for the new guy. Life is sweet.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (12 May 2010):
If he is single, then take a chance and tell him. you have nothing to lose by trying. But if you don't you'll be kicking yourself for ages.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2010): im sorry I can't agree with the first answer. if you love him you feel for him let him know. he might reciprocate the feelings or he will be caught off guard. if he does have feelings for you he might just be doin same thing you are. second guessing a confession. but its your decision and I've always lived by a rule that nobody in the world can ever tell YOU what is right for YOU. make your own decisions too make yourself happy.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (12 May 2010):
Things happened for a reason. It meant that he is not the one for you . You have got to leave things as they are and bless him .
Keep those feeling within yourself . It may stay or will disappear in time. Then you will know if those feelings were true or not .
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