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female
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36-40,
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writes:Hi,I have a three year-old relationship. We have a great relationship I can say, he's been there through bad times and the good, however these past few months I can say sweetness has gone away. It all started when I reprimanded him that he's not saving for our future, and all his earnings totally went to his family. We had this fight, and he chose me over family. He cannot even tell me a concrete plan for the two of us rather tell of imposible things of moving into other countries, impossible because of his family. We had sex already even on our first year we're on. I am not happy anymore but the only reason I am staying with this relationship is that he's the first I gave myself to, also I think of the three years that has been spent for this relationship. Do I need to hold on or let go? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2008): Hmmm...Where do I begin?Friend I can understand he's not saving for both of you.Thats wrong.But him wanting to help his family is not wrong either.When you ask a person who you love to select his family or you its not fair.They have been with him right from first.Yes Money is important but it shouldn't be the ruling factor of your lives.Giving your virginity to the person shouldn't be the only reason you stay in the relationship.It takes lots more to make a relationship work.What would you have done if he had asked you to select him over your family.Get the priorities in your life right.List it down on a paper it cud be love,career,money etc.,.If this Money issue is the only reason that is making you unhappy please ponder on the answer above.All the best.God bless.
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