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30-35,
anonymous
writes:So I think I'm a pretty good looking guy but because of the situation I am in, I am still a virgin... I think this is mostly because I'm stuck; I don't have a vehicle and I still live with my parents due to financial reasons...It's sad but true that if I were more independent girls would show more interest.. I've had my heart broken in the past by a close friend who led me on and played mind games. I recovered best I could (though it's hard to imagine ever really being over her) and I've given my best efforts with other girls but for some reason they reject me, I'm tired of the chase... I know I could easily get with a girl if I lowered my standards but I am not one to act out of desperation and if I am not attracted to the girl I don't think I could perform because I'm not feeling it. I'm losing all faith in woman and am slowly becoming a misogynist... With all of this female liberation going on, how is a guy supposed to meet a decent woman? The girls I am attracted to can act promiscuously and explore their sexual desires without shame because other girls are doing so and they claim that guys do it all the time. I haven't got a problem with girls having sex with someone they care about but I'm starting to know too many girls who have had mmf or mff threesomes, and a couple dozen partners (that i know of)... I don't agree with that type of lifestyle but then I come off as the jerk because I'm being judgmental? I write them off as lost causes because they have no perspective yet on what's really important, finding a life partner, I mean, that's what we're wired to do right!? When the girls grow up and finally reach that point, I'll probably have issues getting over their past, won't be able to fully trust them because of my experiences.. What's my problem? Do I need to conform to the level that society is at? Having pointless one night stands to relieve my built up tension?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): No no you are right in your thinking and show total maturity. Please dont ever alter your principles. You will be a good catch for the right girl.The worlds gone mad, the behaviour of girls and women these days is disgraceful. Im 40, not a prude but I am a lady. I am astounded by the `for the sake of it' experiences young people are having. I remember being 17 and just kissing felt like nothing compared to now. Mechanical not emotional. Im glad I didnt do much else. Only when I got to my mid twenties plus did it all become a mind body soul thing.Please remember that television/media has alot to do with it. Young minds absorbing and copying what they think they have to do to be cool/interesting/accepted/adored. Singers and actors have alot of blame on their shoulders.Stay just as you are, dont be in a hurry. When you get to my age you will be glad of your thinking. You will see there was no point in rushing or worrying.
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reader, bardia  +, writes (2 February 2012):
 Oh! Please hold fast to what you believe! I think there are a lot of people who like the shock value of multiple partners & threesomes. People who do these things say they're happy & free but I think deep down they're just trying to fill empty desperate need for contact and pleasure. There is no such thing as meaningless sex. There is always a reason for it and it is a meeting of souls. Do not buy into the grievous lies of this hedonistic society. They are mere children who don't know how or don't want to commit to anything of worth or meaning. Hold fast!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): I know exactly how you feel because I was in the same situation mindset wise. Iam 21 and a virgin and a year ago didn't have a car (a drivers license at that) and live with my parents due to financial reasons. I was in a really dark place and even decided I was gonna hire an escort because I had all this frustration built up in me(I never went through with it). I have too been hurt by women but you have to let it go even though its the hardest thing to do for guys like us. Surround yourself with good friends and not promiscuous people. Soon after everything else will fall into place and you will be happy. I know you are going to hate reading this because again I was in your state of mind and hated when people told me that but the key is to work on yourself and remember why you are waiting. Just stop thinking about what ifs because in the end that's all they are what if's inside your head and its not reality. You aren't alone in your situation so keep your head up and don't look back for nothing and no one.
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