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writes:I don't have prior experience in a romantic relationship.A friend of mine advice me to go on some "practice" dating, to get to know the field so to speak, before reaching for a the real thing. So when the right lady comes along I'll have the know-how, and can win her heart.Does prior experience in the romantic area is a must have for success in getting and maintaining a good long-term relationship? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your input :)
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (9 August 2011):
 Dating IS practice for relationships. Dating is a way to try on people to see what is a good fit for you.
Some dating is just plain fun. You share an event or meal together and just enjoy being with another human.
Some dating is to explore what qualities in a person you most enjoy and which qualities are dealbreakers on a long term basis.
Then somehow you just find a person that you want to choose as a companion.
Dating helps you find out what you really want. Long term, short term, FWB's, casual, etc. You start learning what other people are looking for too.
The more you date, the more in tune you get with people. Having a relationship does not take prior experience in a committment, it just takes prior experience with people in general, negotiating, balancing, etc. Just like any other relationship, except with romance and sex!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (9 August 2011):
 In my experience, men who had played the field can still be very clueless as to understanding women. Every woman is different. You get practice with each person. You get to know what this particular person needs. In general, women like flowers, they like attention and affection. This is common sense and you don't need to go to dates to learn that. The deeper stuff like what she needs in a relationship, what makes her soul happy, how you fulfill her in life, that's different for each person.
I don't need a man to know what he needs to say, what jokes to make, to feel attracted to him. I once had a date with a man who spoke poor English trying to make conversations with a lot of effort. I could tell he had not much experience with women. But I liked him because he is genuine and I saw his soft spot. Your question also implies that you have to date a lot of wrong women to know how to win the right woman. Isn't it an oxymoron? How do you know how to make the right woman happy if you just practice with the wrong women?
For sex, experience can be helpful. Try to last long and think about her pleasure.
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reader, princessjasmine +, writes (9 August 2011):
Not at all, the best thing you can do is be YOU! We love confidence and no pretending. We love honesty and real people, so stop 'practicing' and stressing about saying the right / wrong thing and learn to go with the flow and just be you...we would love it :)
Make sure your attentive, give eye contact and listen, ask questions and make sure you share about yourself as well...see her as a new friend your making, go wherever the conversaation flows and be a sweet heart! You do not needa go on practice dates to know how to date, dating is just spending time with a friend and seeing where it goes. Dont stress whether she likes you or not, think about whether YOU like HER and just be the best you! Respect her and treat her the way she should be treated....we love that!
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