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writes:Lately I've been noticing one of my teachers seems to be acting differently. In the beginning of the year, he would constantly be staring at me when teaching, (which made me feel uncomfortable at times), but now he's looking away if he catches me looking at him. He also does this quick glance thing at me, then looks away, and kind of looks embarrassed? But then there are also days when he 'holds his eye contact' with me and kind of looks like he's about to smile. I'm just getting really confused with his actions and I'm kind of getting self-conscious and nervous in his class now. I don't know what to do, and recently when I had to ask him a question about something, (after class, when everyone had left already), he didn't make much eye contact with me the whole time and he was acting kind of nervous and was fidgeting around with some papers on his desk. And because of what has been happening lately, when I went up to him and asked the question, I couldn't really look him in the eye either. I hope this makes some sense, because it sounds like rambling, but I don't know if I make him nervous or I'm just being paranoid now. It's starting to bother me. Thanks if anyone can help. =)
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reader, mysterious_blonde_lady  +, writes (20 May 2009):
Hmmm... you are probably very pretty and he is a weak man, who is a sucker for pretty girls. I suspect you like this attention and this is why you are so concerned about it, however if i am mistaken it is best to be somewhat cold, and if he doesnt get the message you may have to resort to such measures as 'sir, could you please stop staring at me. Thankyou.' Hopefully, it wouldn't come to that. Some men like young girls however there is a difference between looking, and doing anything about it. If at any time you feel like the behaviour is progessing i.e touching etc.. you need to distance yourself immediately, and if things get out your control, tell someone. The fact that you noticing these things about him, tells me that you are watching him also, whether it be in a more subtle way... he will pick up on this, and he may be nervous because he likes you or fancies you. If this is a nice guy, don't make things more awkward just try and make conversation or slyly mention your 'boyfriend' and he'll get the message. If you want things to move further i would strongly recommend waiting until you are no longer his student i.e. left school. Student/teacher relations are messy and ruin lives.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): PS: From your writing here at Dear Cupid, I can see you are intelligent and thoughtful and can understand why this guy probably thinks your a nice student, but that's all it can ever be...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): Babes, your never, ever wrong for liking someone, you can never be wrong if you fall in love. These are your feelings, feelings off love are good. Never feel ashamed of liking or loving someone, I have no problems with that. But it's behaviour babes, we can like somebody and love them, but sometimes we can't tell them because they are older, illegal, or married or with someone else. I hope you understand. Your young, and you like this guy, but there is nothing you can do about it. Love, crushes and liking people can stink sometime, but they make us think good of someone else, and show us the very best of ourselves. This guy is not for you, but your young, soon you will find the guy that is perfect for you.... Never be ashamed of your feelings, you feel how you feel, but behave with honour and pride and do nothing to make yourself or your family ashamed.
When somebody likes us, it makes us feel good. It's probably not a crush/love you feel (I don't know) you probably feel flattered that this old guy seems to like you. Take care babes, and thanks for updating your post.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAt the start of the school year I liked him just as a teacher, and some of my friends who had him the year before said he was cool and fun to have. But now since all of these things have started happening, I've kind of been liking him more and more. I know it's wrong to be liking him in this kind of manner, but lately his actions are making me feel this way.
Thanks to the people who have responded.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): Your a young woman, he's an older man. He might have had inappropriate ideas about you, and now he's embarrassed when he sees you. This will blow over, ignore it, and feel a little sorry for him. Do not get into imaginations about your teachers romantic life. There is no point, it will only drive you insane. Just ignore it, and continue acting the way you've always behaved and he will go back to normal.
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reader, blazee +, writes (14 December 2008):
 hey:)
well, it dosnt seem like you have any feelings for him, am i right?
i would just keep this out of your mind unless he dose anything. mabye tell a friend so you have someone to back you up if he tries something weird.
remember if you ever do start having feelings for this guy that hes older, probably married or in a relationship. hes not allowed to date you or have any sexual relations.
good luck yeah, and be careful cause there are some sik people out there
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): maybe you didn't have any romantic interest in him at first, if thats true and this is random he probably has some sort of crush on you- if you did have feelings you're likely to imagine signals. he's also doing the responsible thing by not making too much eye contact he's probably not comtemplating making a move on you at current but im kinda sure you're not paranoid i think most people observing the situation would agree that he is human and he's got a thing for you.everything happens for a reason i mean maybe you'll end up having feelings for him or maybe already have - you're interested in this teachers reaction to you and you pay attention to little things like his body language just bare in mind that he is trying to keep his distance for a reason he's probably already got someone or he cares about his job i would just push it out your mind atm but if you want you could find more out about him or wait till you leave who knows. whatever you do act responsible and maturely and try not to get too involved good luck!
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