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writes: I was very close friends with my co - worker. We got along so well and everyone could see that. We were always messing around and everybody used to make 'lovebird' comments but I never thought anything of it. My thoughts were that we were friends (he has a girlfriend anyway). One day, he told me that he would be moving back to his hometown. I noticed that when he told me this I was really shocked and sad, but still didn't take any notice. Anyway, weeks went on and I noticed that the flirting between us was getting more intense, everyone would ask me if there was something going on between us, but I would say no, for all I knew it was all harmless. The days leading up to his departure he seemed really sad. I'd ask him what's wrong and he'd say 'I feel empty'. I'd say 'you're probably missing your girlfriend' but he'd say 'no, I don't want to leave' followed by 'im really gonna miss you'.That's when I realised this may be more than a friendship.Everything felt right with him, I just felt at home and he made me feel very happy and special. Anyway, we went for drinks on his last night. He was sad about saying goodbye and just held me for ages, I got in the car and drove away and found myself crying, I never cry! I couldn't understand what was happening. The next day I was working and to my surprise he came running in and said 'I had to say goodbye one more time'. He's been gone for about 2 months now. We don't speak much, I thought I'd forget about it in a couple of weeks but I think about him more everyday. I miss him so much but I feel like I can't talk to anyone about it. I'm 19, I find the whole thing quite confusing, all I know is that every day I hope that he's gonna come back. Sorry for the essay! What do I do? Do I speak to him? Move on?
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reader, devont  +, writes (13 July 2015):
 You've got to move on. You've not managed it because work reminds you of him.
If you don't speak that much and he hasn't really kept in touch, then there's nothing to hold on to. He probably did like you and misses you, but as he had a girlfriend and hasn't broken up with her, he's chosen her and not you.
You'll meet someone else and this boy will be but a vague memory :)
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (13 July 2015):
Move on.....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 July 2015):
 Cut the contact. The GUY has a GF.
The reason you got so emotional, was because he PLAYED you well. He gave you attention and affection that he REALLY should have "saved" for his GF, but it made you feel "special" and it got your knickers in a wad.
Seriously, HOW would you feel about his behavior with you, IF HE was your BF and it was some girl at the office he flirted with? You wouldn't like it ONE bit!
Stay away (for you own sake ) from guys who has GF, Fiance or wife... the will only cause you heartbreak.
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