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writes:Relationship for 4 1/2 years we live together and there has been some problems. I love this man and genuinely want a future with him. Our problems have stemmed from his behavior not mine. Recently he has told me he is moving out letting his house be short sold and we are over and that was it we haven't talked about anythingI am in limbo not knowing how long I have is he just frustrated right now he says he isn't ready to talk yet. So how should I be until he is ready? What is a good way to pull him back ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (13 July 2015):
 Don't play games.
Let him know that you will GIVE him space, but that you be sitting and waiting on him to decide what HE wants. YOU have a life to live to.
Then BACK off - go live YOUR life (but maybe NOT date as you are not over this guy) doesn't mean you shouldn't go on vacations, hang out with friends, family etc.
He might NOT come "crawling back" and you need to prepare yourself for that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2015): The most effective method of "pulling someone back" into a relationship is to convey that you're not desperate. In other words, get a life of your own and don't make yourself too available. He apparently made up his mind about wanting to move on, so don't put more pressure on him - it will only accelerate the process because you are creating more stress for him.
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