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writes:So me and my step cousin are really close. We clicked the moment my mum got married to his uncle. We'd always stuck together in everything, and at school, (he goes to the same school as me,) we always partner up for projects. We also hang around together during break and lunch.So, he's always flirting with me, calling me sexy star, and babes, and I do respond by smiling or touching his arm.The other day, we were watching a movie, a scary one, and I got so scared that he noticed and offered to hug me. So I stayed in his arms. After that we ended up kissing, and slept in the same bed. We didn't have sex, we just slept, literally. I think I enjoyed the kiss, and I think he did too, but I don't know how I'm feeling or how he's feeling. So my question is, do I love him and does he love me? I'm 15 and he's 17 btw. Thanks for the answers.
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (21 February 2014):
Love is carrying your spouse to the toilet and wiping their backsides for 40 years after a forsaken car accident.What you are feeling is excitement from a novel experience because you are so young.Two VERY different concepts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2014): Babe, you need to move on, there are plenty more fish in the sea, many of which who are not related to you through marriage or blood. As iAmHereToHelpYou said, he's just leading you on, it's dangerous. Go for someone your age. And, tell your parents what happened. They have a right to know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2014): no, my whole family went to stay at his place, and everyone was asleep. me and him snuck downstairs and watched a film and then yoKnow what happened.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (20 February 2014):
 So you watched a film together and stayed over and your parents didn't notice because they were asleep the whole time? They didn't notice you weren't there at bed time or in the morning? OP, I truly feel sorry if that's the situation because your parents are being neglectful. And it still doesn't answer the question of what his parents thought of the whole thing.
But OK, to answer your question, no I don't think you love each other in that sense. You have crushes perhaps. Perfectly normal at your age, but in this dynamic totally wrong because you're underage and he's family, even though he's not a blood relative.
I'll say it again, you are skating on thin ice here. Sharing a bed with a 17 year old when you're a minor IS NOT OK, for either of you. Kissing may escalate to cuddling and more and as I stated before, going further with him is illegal.
If you can't or won't talk to your parents about this, do you have a guidance counsellor at school who you can talk to, or a teacher you trust?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 February 2014):
 Nope it's not love.
it's teenage infatuation with someone new...
love takes lots of time to grow and mature and at 15 and 17 this is probably nothing more than a passing fancy for one or both of you.
it's normal at your age to be interested in being physical with people you are attracted to. I would strongly encourage you to NOT be intimate with him beyond what's going on now for a long long LONG time. Because to be honest if you do, and it doesn't work out, then you are stuck seeing him at all the family events and either pretending nothing happened and feeling bad or feeling awkward around each other forever more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2014): my parentswere sleeping, i went to his place for a sleepover. but still, thats not the answer to my post.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2014): are you sure sleeping in the same bed as a guy is a good idea? he may like you, but it's still dangerous. what if you did end up having sex? what would you do then? 15 is quite a young ag. i'm one to talk, 'cos i'm younger than you, but as the other poster said, be careful. p.s. where were your parents?
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (20 February 2014):
OP, I hope you love him in the same way I love my cousins, i.e. in the same way I love my brothers. I hope that's the way he loves you.
It's not illegal to date or even marry a cousin, especially a step cousin, but it's tricky.
Most importantly, you really are too young to be sharing a bed with a boy, especially a hormonal 17 year old one. I'm very surprised your parents or his parents allowed this.
It's all too easy to get carried away, and if you were to have sex it would be illegal (you are too young to consent) and he'd be committing a crime (rape).
Be very careful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2014): well, we partnerup in projects in after school clubs, our school has a six form thinggy.
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