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writes:hey everyone, i'm so confused about a guy right now.I don't know what to do. anyway i started talking to this guy a while ago and we started talking everyday back in september. we have hung out, i've stayed at his house twice the second time i stayed with him we had sex. and we've been talking alot. he sends me good morning messages every morning has for almost 2 weeks. but the thing is i don't know what we are. I don't want to ask him. We haven't talked about dating or anything. And i'm kind of getting impatient about things. But i don't want to seem desperate or anything. what should i do? Do i just stop talking to him or keep waiting? Reply to this Question
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reader, auntymarina  +, writes (29 November 2015):
I think that you need to take the initiative and talk to him about your questions and how you are feeling with him. All the doubts that you have in your mind will be cleared by having effective communication with him because you seem to be over-thinking things because of not knowing what he thinks. Ask him where you both are and whether he wants to continue and if you want to as well.
Good luck!
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reader, Dawnielou  +, writes (29 November 2015):
Maybe he wants you to be the first to bring it up?
He sounds as though he's making an effort but maybe unsure of himself in some ways. Ask him outright and see what he says because you have nothing to lose. Also I'd say as he sends you good morning texts all the time he's thinking of you which is always a good sign. Good luck ??
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (29 November 2015):
If he gets the things from a relationship like sex and compassion without being in a relationship, he's not going to think about being in one. I don't think he is a bad guy, just it is just part of human nature. I think the time between September and now has been enough time to let things develop. A girl initiated the conversation to me in an awesome way one time. She said basically, "well heres the thing I like you and I think you like me too. I didn't think it would have been this much fun already but I want to do the relationship thing with you. You don't have to give me an answer right now but think about it and let me know tomorrow". She didn't put me on the spot and gave me time to sit down and actually think about it because she seemed like she actually cared about me to allow me to think it over. I am not saying that you HAVE TO initiate though, but I don't think you should wait either. You can try stop talking to him and see if he pursue's you but that is such a game tool that I never recommend that path.
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