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*obert molyneux
writes:Hi I met a girl through work last year and did allot of work together. We both went on seperate holidays and missed each other like mad.We got back and i left my partner for her and moved in with her. After a few months due presure she had a bad bought of depression and it came about that she had suffered on several other times and that she may be bi polar. We split due to the pressure and she unbeknown to me attemted to committ suiside.6 weeks later she caled me all the time andsaid it was all the pressure of the debt that she had built up that had been sorted so would ui have abother go.So i agreed - by this time i had got into a bit of debt due to my infactuation with her and me taking my finger off my busness pulse.Severalweeks passed and as soon as she gets a job she went in to a deep depressiona nd anxiety - she has had several jobs but now has stuck at this onequestiondo i just see her and see if the counciling has worked that she is on and the meds. I could not go through the depressions whilst living with her as it affected me so bad with stress as i could not work etcthanks
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reader, Who  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 There is a line from an old blues song: “Never lie down with a woman with more troubles than you.”
People are creatures of habits. They change sometimes but in general you should look to how she has behaved in the past and expect similar behavior in the future.
Having said all that, do you love her? Do you love her enough to live with the bad parts of being with her, without complaining or blaming her? If so you should be with her.
(If you decide to be with her, keep encouraging her, keep her in counseling when she needs it and keep her on her meds.)
Good luck and I hope this helps.
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