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*osygirls92
writes:Up until recently I brokeup with my ex. We were only together when I moved away from his city to go uni so we actually never got to go on a proper date while being a pair since i broke it off cuz i couldn't handle missing him so much and neither could he. However, this was my first boyfriend. When i got back to his city I hung out with him for a day. We had gud fun catching up. Then at the end of the day, I drove him home and he starts kissing my neck and asks that I let him kiss my lips to make up for neva seeing each other when together. It was in the heat of the moment so I let him. he had quite a bit of experience. Except this was my very first kiss and it turned into a really long makeout session. But now I feel so whorish for giving my first kiss to an ex in a car, not a proper bf. Esp one who wasn't a virgin and prolli didn't even care about it and since i ACTUALLY enjoyed it. Will I still be able to find a guy who will truly love me now i'm like this? Can u eva truly get ova a guy who stole ur first kiss?? SHOULD i get over him? thankyou for reading to the end, i really appreciate it.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (26 April 2010):
 I wonder how you went for so long without ever kissing a guy? This was your ex, howcome you never kissed him while he was your boyfriend? I can't get my head around that. When in a relationship people are more intimate with eachother, 100% of the time girlsfriends will kiss their boyfriends...right? If they don't I dont see how the relationship differs from a friendship. Im guessing you never got around to kissing him because you never met as a couple? Well in that case, take the kiss as something that you deserved. You should have been kissing this guy for all the time you were together but you didn't, so at least you got to try his lips once before you both move on. A kiss that in my book was rightfully yours.
As for the first kiss: a guy stole my first kiss when I was 13 and I didnt even know him. Does it bother me? Not at all, I find it amusing how I got my first kiss. You shouldn't bother so much about it. The first kiss doesn't mean much. It matters to you in this moment, but no one counts how many they've ever kissed or keep a score of that.
And yes, you most definitely will get over the guy you first kissed, and you most definitely should get over this guy. It didn't work out between you and you should move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010): i think your word "whorish" for just kissing somebody is a bit of an overreaction, ex/bf/random stranger...its just a kiss.just see it as the bit of fun it was intended to be and move on. its good that you respect your body and want these things to happen with somebody you love but most people laugh and joke about their first kiss years down the line,its just not that big a deal.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (26 April 2010):
 Your first kiss isn't that much of a big deal, most peoples first kiss is a dare, or a drunken thing. Get over it and move on, so what if you enjoyed it? Its ok to enjoy it!
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