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writes:So my LDR boyfriend is finally with me, and only here for a short time. Do I introduce him to my parents?I met him online, and they knew about him before but were very negative about the whole issue and told me to dump him immediately. They dont know I am still with him.So, is an introduction now to much pressure? Do I wait another year(s) when he comes again?I'm rather tired of hiding our relationship, but the alternative is most likely getting constant pressure to break up from them. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2011): I'd wait. If you only have a little while together on this occasion, just concentrate on enjoying being with one another. Don't worry about your parents for now; you'll have plenty of time to decide how to deal with them before your boyfriend's next visit.
Are both of your parents dead against the idea of your relationship, or is one more open to discussion than the other? Perhaps you could start casually dropping your boyfriend into conversation (under the guise of a "friend" at first?) to let them know he's still a part of your life. Emphasise his best qualities, the positive things he's said and done; if they can see he's a decent person and a good influence in your life, hopefully they'll grow less unrelenting over time. Then you can introduce him. If all else fails though, remember you're 18-21, and while it always feels better to have the blessing of your parents, ultimately you have the right to date who you want :) Good luck and take care x
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reader, Aunty Honest  +, writes (26 July 2011):
 I think you should do what you're comfortable with. If it's his first visit-and his only one for a year-just enjoy it! Enjoy his company and getting to know him, why cause yourself him and your parents a whole load of stress on his first visit. Relationships should be fun, so go have some.
Hope that helps
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