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writes:My sister is an addict. She had done everything; pot, heroin, cocaine, mushrooms, acid and meth. She is now currently struggling with meth addiction, diabetes, two skin disorders and addiction to alcohol.She has expressed to me that she wants help, so we've been setting up drug evalutations and getting her into rehab. I've been staying up at my dad's house while she is staying there until her drug evaluation this Thurdsday. I was recently informed that she had given a woman who was high my dad's address so they could find her lady. She was very high, I don't know if she remembers the address or not. They haven't shown up here.My concern is that I have my two small children with me, along with four of my younger siblings up here. My dad is absent as he is with his girlfriend all of the time and my mother is dead. I'm worried for their safety, so I don't want to leave them here alone, especially with her. My dad however is throwing a fit that we are staying up here even though he asked me to when he was drunk. He claims that he can't afford to feed everyone even though I've spent two hundred dollars in groceries in the last four days for his kids too, he only gives them hundred dollars for three meals a day for seven days for four people.Should I stay up here and protect my family while risking my own and disregard my father, or should i go home and let nature run it's course? She is going to rehab in three days. Should I stick it out or not?I am so lost, I dont' know what to do. I've tried getting the authorities (social services) involved but they claim they can't do anything. Please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2013): If you budget, you can easily feed a family of four on $100. Buy cheap cereal in large quantity, milk, beans, rice, cheap bulk noodles, whatever veggies/fruits are in season (carrots, onions, and celery are usually $1/lb) bulk eggs (30 for $5 or 60 for $7), pancake mix (or ingredients to make your own), big 5 or 10lb roll of ground beef. Buy a whole chicken or two and maybe 10lbs of potatoes. That can all be bought for under $100 and feed a family of four and be stretched for a month.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2013): My father is an alcoholic who is never at home, he is always at his girlfriend's house. I've been raising my siblings since I was 11 years old as him and my mother were drunks and were always at the bar.
I know my kids come first, but I'm really stuck. What if something happens to one of my brothers or sisters and it was something I could have prevented? She has been with me that last four days, I know she hasn't used and I have her phone. she doesn't go anywhere alone. She isn't allowed to use the phone. She is to be checked into rehab on Thursday.
I've called the "authorities" and they won't do anything about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2013): OP with all due respect why would you expose your two small children to this kind of environment?
I understand you want to help your sister but she's an adult and is ultimately responsible for herself.
Those two kids are your primary responsibility in life and protecting them comes first, bringing them into a situation with a "crazed" drug addict who has invited dealers over etc. was not a good idea.
Your first responsibility is to remove them from that environment. Plus OP you can better help by remaining outside that situation, you shouldn't have thrown yourself and your kids straight in. Now your absent father is pissed, you're paying 100's on groceries, you have every reason to fear for your safety and that of your kids with what she may do while high or who she may invite over. You need to go and you need to go now.
You can still visit every day to check up on them, make sure your siblings are doing okay and that your sister hasn't done anything crazy stupid.
OP your kids come first, so protect them first then worry about your siblings. Do all this from the outside but keep your children in their safe little bubble at home. At the end of the day they're his responsibility not yours and until they're truly in danger then there's nothing the authorities can do.
If your sister doesn't get the help she needs, call the cops on her and have her arrested and she'll be put in the system where she will be forced to get help. I know it doesn't sound great OP, but it's better than her turning up dead of an overdose or because she got into a situation she couldn't handle. If you see any sign of drugs in the house with those kids the authorities will have to act.
First things first though, get out of there and get your kids out of there.
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