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writes: hi I met this guy twice and I have never felt this way about anyone. we met at a convention last year and not the best of first impressions I was extremely attracted to him and slightly drunk. my first words your stunning and that's how it started ! we hit it off pretty quickly and we talked for hours it was intense the way he was looking at me I never felt so attractive and wanted in my life. he himself admits he a bit of a tool which is not would i would ever go for. we kissed and that was that for 6 months. then I saw him again last week I was worried he wouldn't know who I was so I avoided him for most of the night. until somehow we ended up talking on the bed and before we knew we couldn't keep are hands of each other. I have never felt that way when I kissed someone. I just wanted more every bit of my body desired him. I was in a long term relationship I never felt so overcome with desire and honestly the rest of the world just went away. later that night he went to his room got a sleeping back and we laid on the grass. we talking, kissing and flirting. I don't even rember what we were saying the thing I remember is his deep flirty eyes and rolling in the mud to the sun came up ! next night saw him again this time we hit of strait away and all night even we weren't with each other he was be looking over and flirting with his eyes. we had an opportunity to go to his room I declined which I now regret because I had just come out of a bad relationship. I feel I messed things up here but still we spent the rest of the night kissing in the corridors he made me feel like a school girl with a massive crush. I have honestly never felt so attracted to someone but I cant tell cause it was so intense if I just wanted to sleep with him or I actually have feelings. we were texting but its died out I really want to see him again I just wish I understood how I felt. please give me your opinions I need help. thank you
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (4 November 2013):
 "we were texting but it just died out"
key component to any relationship is the ability to sustain a conversation.
If you can't manage to talk.. there will only be sex.... not a good relationship.
you are freshly out of a relationship and the passion you feel is normal for anything new and exciting... but if you can't sustain it with real life activities.. then it's not worth much.
If you want to see him again.. call him and ask him out... but I would NOT have sex with him or tease him with necking make out sessions for a while... wait and see if there really is anything there worth developing...
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reader, M Proops  +, writes (3 November 2013):
Sounds like you're "in lust " with him and not "in love".
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2013): If you just got out of a bad relationship, these are rebound feelings. You are very young and hormones are having a lot to do with it as well. Don't trust your feelings after breaking up with someone. The mind plays tricks on you.
When you are in the process of detaching from someone; there are still residual feelings that confuse your mind. Like withdrawing from a drug, you crave a fix. You want to feel loved, comfortable, attractive, and happy. Your mind is open to anyone who can satisfy this craving. He came along, and now you're using him like a painkiller.
Use this time to continue recovering and detaching from your old boyfriend. You can't really trust your feelings for this boy, until you know how far you've come along in getting over your ex.
You don't want him to get too attached to you; before you actually know where your feelings are coming from. Just leave both guys alone. You have to deal with what you're feeling inside. Get over your grief for loss of an old boyfriend, make sure you're not being too vulnerable due to your pain. Make sure what you're doing is done; because you really want to. Not to show your ex you can find someone else. Take it slow and easy. You might break his heart unintentionally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2013): I'm confused, were you in a relationship or were you just getting out of one? If you were making out/flirting/messing around while still in a relationship, that was a case of bad judgment on your part. If you don't want the person you're with, or you want someone else, end the relationship FIRST. Otherwise, you're cheating. If you just got out of a bad relationship, you really need to be taking time for YOURSELF. that means no flirting, no leading people on, no messing around, and no sex. At least until you're ready. The fact that you have to question this says you're not ready for it. Yeah, I think you do have feelings for this guy, but as you said, the texting died out and now where are you? Probably messing around and MAYBE talking a bit. But I really think he's only after you for phyical reasons honey.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2013): Invite him out for lunch, it sounds like yout wo don't tal mich so it'd be a good idea.z
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