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writes:There's a girl I know, let's call her Miranda. She's the roommate of two friends of mine, and we sometimes go over just to hang out with them. I've known this girl about a month or so.Two weeks ago myself, three other girls and her had a night in to celebrate Divali together. I had a good time with her, I can sort of hold conversation even though sometimes she gives short answers (she's pretty shy and reclusive) and we were flirting (I think) - taking the piss out of each other, taking each other down at every opportunity. It also seemed like she was looking at me while I was washing the dishes.Yesterday I went over again, and myself and my friends all started playing a card game. While she was sitting next to me and one of my other friends, she would continuously ask me for help on what to do but then (again) try and beat me with every opportunity.She's really pretty and if I'm honest I keep thinking I'm not good enough for her. My question is, do I have enough here to say that she likes me back or am I just getting my hopes up?
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reader, Odds  +, writes (18 November 2010):
 The question is not, "Does she like me?"
The question is, "Do I want to ask her out?"
Look, maybe she likes you, maybe not, but that has no bearing on whether or not you should make a move. Even if she doesn't like you now, she might after a coffee date, a nice walk, or some partying.
Think how hard it would be to form relationships if we could only ask out people who already wanted to date us, and not people who were simply open to the possibility. Go for it, and if it doesn't work, you can still be friends.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (18 November 2010):
 I don't think this is enough to say she likes you back. It could be she was flirting, but flirting could be friendly flirting. The best way to find out is if you can get her on her own somehow and see how she behaves around you. If she smiles a lot in your company (when you and her are alone or close to alone) she enjoys your company. If she often approaches you then she probably likes you, but it's hard to say if it could tilt from friendly to more.
She's probably not in love with you though, I think. I think you need to ask her out to figure out what the chances are for more. Ask her for a coffee one day for example, or maybe you can teach her some more card games or whatever, just the two of you. You could set this up without it looking like a date if you are scared of putting yourself out there (although a rejection to a date is nothing to be ashamed of, nothing gambled nothing won). You could for example say that you and your friend are playing cards and invite her over, then your friend "suddenly" needs to leave for something urgent and leaves the two of you alone. If she sticks around chances are she likes you. If she excuses herself then she's not that into you....?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 November 2010):
1 - Quit thinking you're not good enough. If you think you're not good enough, she'll walk on by and you'll never know. Yes you are good enough.
2 - Maybe she does like you, maybe she doesn't. You won't know unless you take a deep breath and talk to her about it. You need to take the risk and find out. If she says she does like you, than that's great. If not, then move on.
So, stop thinking, and do it. Risk it. It'll be worth it one way or another.
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