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writes:Can you remarry after divorce?Is your contract with God or the government?My wife had two affairs and it blew my mind literally. I had a mental breakdown and developed Bi polar.Anyway i'm back and have finally recovered after 7 years and realise it is my duty to fulfill my marriage contract, and that had i not been disabled mentally at the time I would have never filed for divorce.My wife/exwife is in another relationship with a partner.So do I have any rights?
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reader, 48years  +, writes (6 February 2009):
 God never said anywhere in the Bible that we deserve to be happy. God doesn't care if we're happy. He only cares that we are obedient and that we love Him above all others.
Whatever you do in life, ask yourself if you'd want the same treatment you feel like dishing out. So, be kind to the ex, and be kind to yourself. You once shared a life together despite what she did to you. You don't have to be a doormat, but you have a responsibility - perhaps to the rest of your family? - to behave like a person of integrity.
Your ex couldn't do it - but you can. Live the life of a person of dignity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): Thanks for your support folks.I have re read Matthew 19and you are correct j.kSome how I kept replaying the 'have you not read bit'.It's been a long but enlightening journey.Like Griffo says I can honestly say I held in there and did my best.I will start looking for a new wife, I know i'm stronger and more equiped.Caelitus mihi vires
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): Bible Thumper talking:) j.k.You were free to divorce your wife on the same night she slept with another man, biblically true.You were free to forgive her infidelity and continue with the marriage also. I'm sorry you put yourself through so much anguish over this. Divorcing was your right, and in your case definetly the right choice considering your mental state. But the hope is, you are Free to fall in love and marry again.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (5 February 2009):
 Well to quite simply put it you as a person deserve to be happy, and that includes being with somone again. You already know the rules of government but to shead some light on the faith aspect, my own opinion is god put us here and "gave us life" that means to learn and experience life for ourselves. The things we do at the end are judged upon. God is smarter than we all think he knows exactly what all of us are thinking so there's no tricking him but for you, I think god would be happy for you to remarry if there is no way you can get back or forgive your own wife as god would do himself, I hope you gave her your best regardless of how she treated you. But, you deserve to love again and be loved again too, why would god himself want to disallow such a beautiful thing?, you are free to do what ever you want in your life that's why you were given life, but your actions may be judged upon later. you can pray every day or once in your lifetime. As long as you live a fulfilling life and beat all the difficult times and come out on top a completed and life fulfilled person, love another with all your heart, and be the best you possibly can be and im sure god will reward you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): Thanks HonningKaninIt's Matthew 19 that trips me up, my heart has softened.Thanks anyhow, i'm sure God will guide me.
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (5 February 2009):
 I am by no means religious and I do not know your religion, but seeing as you are in the UK the predominant religion is christianity.
If you are a Christian you are certainly allowed to divorce and remarry.
Matthew 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
Meaning if your wife is unfaithful you are allowed to divorce her and you are allowed to remarry. In fact women are allowed to remarry also.
Deuteronomy 24:1 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house.
24:2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife.
But the bible also states if you marry her and you are her first husband and she is not a virgin you are allowed to stone her and i dont see many people getting away with that in the UK. Plus adultery is only something a woman can do and not a man seeing as men were allowed to have many wives. One of the ten commandments states not to covet your neighbors wife not because the man would be committing adultery, but because the woman was seen as the mans property and you would be coveting your neighbors belongings which is classed as the sin.
Personally I would ask you to shed off the burden of shame. Life is too short and you should find what makes you happy. If your god is a loving and just god as you personally believe him to be then he would have no objections with you finding the happiness you deserve.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): Yes you can, in the legal sense, as long as you have the decree absolute.
Whether your contract is with God is up to your own conscience. The government has nothing to do with it, other than the fact that they are the people that make the laws governing divorce.
What rights are you referring to?
The big question is whether your wife would want to fulfil the contract, seeing as she's now with someone else. It takes two!
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