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anonymous
writes:me and my boyfriend have been together 6 months now.we love each other and i believe as a couple we are very strong.however i came across a comment on a networking site that he'd made 5months ago to a girl he was seeing about 10 months back (nothing serious) the comment said "you look very pretty in your profile picture ;)"this has upset me greatly as i got cheated on by my last boyfriend and found out because of this same networking site, through pictures of them and comments etc.anyway, i know it was right at the start of our relationship, and im nearly 100% sure he doesnt talk to this girl anymore but its still hurt me alot, i really thought i could trust him until now.i dont want to bring it up incase its nothing, but do i have reason to be worried, or do guys say things like this all the time and it means nothing? i mean i do know he loves me, was this a comment i should just ignore?thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): I don't think you should ignore it but don't let it become the centre of your relationship.. You all were only dating a month when he said this and chances are things weren't that serious back then.. If he hasn't said anything since then it shows he's become more committed to your relationship and he's not having any contact with her.. But you should sit down calmly and let him know you found out and it upset you but don't argue.. Just tell him how you felt and give him a chance to calm your fears.. But if you don't tell him it will just fester insecurities in you and you will start resenting him..
Good luck!
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reader, nokutenda  +, writes (5 February 2009):
l think you should just let it go, it happened when you had been dating for only 1 month. plus isn't it he doesn't talk to his ex now.
besides this message, doesn't he treat you right?
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